I know it is the age, but omg so many questions
For the last two weeks SD has been asking SOOOO many questions. I know it is the age since she is about to turn 4 at the end of this month and it is good she is curious enough to ask questions, but omg it is the repeated questions that have already been answered that is frustrating. For example:
SD: What are we doing today?
Bf or I: We are doing x,y, & z.
SD: Then what?
Bf or I: Then we are doing x,y, &z.
SD: Then what?
Bf or I: You will find out when we get to that point.
SD: What are we doing today?
Bf or I: Did I just tell you what we are doing today?
SD: Yes.
Bf or I: Then why are you asking me what are we doing today again?
SD: I don't know.
Bf or I: Okay, let's not ask again since we already told you what we are doing today.
SD: For what?
...... this is how most mornings, afternoons, and nights are going. I mean we are happy that her vocabulary is expanding and her understanding of asking questions, etc. but man oh man is it exhausting, haha. Just hoping that soon it doesn't need to be answered six times for the child to stop asking what are we doing, then what, or for what. LOL.
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I go down the rabbit hole of
I go down the rabbit hole of "why?" from my 4 year old about 67 times a day. Hang in there.
Or
my other favorite "what does that say?" to every sign passed while driving :x
My niece, at age 4, while
My niece, at age 4, while putting on her boots to go to the library, asked my sister, "So - when do I get my boobs? I'm ready."
They are full of all kinds of questions!
Oh my!
Yes they are! As well as full of funny things to say.
The other day she had an accident in her pants, so the next day I asked her "so where do we not pee?" SD's response, "in the kitchen." Since she had the accident while standing in the kitchen I guess this is what she had in her brain. I had to try so hard to not crack up in front of her and say "Well yes we don't pee in the kitchen, but we also do not pee in our pants." Bf was next to me and turned away because he was dying laughing.
My sister said, "I don't know
My sister said, "I don't know, but probably not before we get to the library, so hurry up and put your boots on, " which seemed to work.
LOL. 4 is one of my favorite ages. They haven't been affected by all the other kids in school yet, but they are old enough not to need constant supervision. And they say funny things.
Haha, that is funny
Yeah it is pretty hilarious, most of the time! There is that percentage of please stop asking me 50 questions, especially the same question that I answered, 10 times already :x
Yes, my niece is now 19 and
Yes, my niece is now 19 and everyone loves to tell that story, lol. She finds it amusing as well.
And comments...!!
And comments...!!
Baby face busted in on me in the shower a few weeks back. First thing outta his mouth, "MOM!! Your boods are loooong!" I'm not telling him it boobs not, boods. I hope he doesn't figure it out until middle school. Little shit.
My son has had anxiety his
My son has had anxiety his whole life. As a toddler if something unexpected happened, the melt downs were insane. We wound up working with a therapist who had us doing all of these exercises and they really helped him. But the biggest thing I ever did was explain our day, every day along with a very structured routine.
Because of my experience with that one thing that I will say helped with the million questions was every morning as I was getting him dressed we did a run down of our day. Now with my son I had to include things like nap times and if we would have to get gas on the way to xyz (or he would disolve in to hysterics)- but just a general :
Luckily, I don't think she has anxiety at all
but even when you run down the whole day, five minutes later she will ask "what are we doing today?" Then we ask her if we just told her what we are doing today, to which she says yes, then ask her then why did you ask, she says "I don't know." So I don't know how else to explain the day to her and make her not ask us 10 more times what we are doing for the day lol.
We have a pretty straight forward routine, during the week, she goes to school, and the weekend we usually tell her on Friday what we are doing for the weekend, but still get many many questions.
I loved that age with DD
She was a hoot.
But like JMTB's kiddo, she was anxious and needed routine, which I was really good at making for her. She had trouble when she hit 1st grade because nothing was predictable anymore--even though her teacher tried.
BUT--and this is a big but--she was my kid and not my Skid. I seriously doubt I could have handled my skids at that age. (SS was PASd out in that time frame, lol.)
Hahaha true
She has a routine except the weekend when we do different things! I feel like when she doesn't know what to say, but wants to say something she asks "what are we doing today" or "what are you doing"
This was a big problem for us
This was a big problem for us with Killjoy until we put a stop to it around age 12. It was riduculous and not about to stop on its own. It's a combination of anxiety and attention seeking. Children with attachment disorders do this a lot.
We told her she can only ask 10 questions a day. If she asked a stupid question, we'd ask her if she really wanted to waste one of her questions on something stupid.
It was like a game she played, she asked her questions in a very demanding voice like she was entitled to pepper us with exhausting stupidity nonstop. We told her she's not entitled to have every question that popped into her head answered on demand.
Another thing we did was answer "Think about it."
Oh my that is a long time!
If it is still a thing in a few years as she is older, definitely will be trying your approach! At that age, it is most definitely attention seeking and I wouldn't be okay with it either! I mean heck even now, if it is something we know she knows the answer to we address it and point out we know she knows the answer to hopefully stop her from re-asking. Like last night she asked about my bf's tattoo on his upper arm, she said "what is that?" which I know my bf has told her many times and I could tell he was annoyed so I said "SD has dad told you what that is before?" she goes "yes" so I said, "then why are you asking what it is," she said "I don't know," and I told her "if dad has told you before, don't keep asking him things you already know," and she said "Okay." So we shall see the next time she sees his tattoo if she asks him again or not. Bf followed up with "it is a tattoo and that is the last time I am going to explain it." ... Definitely do not want her getting in the habit of asking questions she ALREADY knows and has been told the answer to, especially things that haven't changed, like the tattoo or what is soap. No thanks!