I am FUMING
So those of you who said BM was going to try and get my bf to take the older child too were right. Right before leaving for the exchange my bf got a text from BM saying how he did not respond to the message in the app regarding the older child wanting to call him, how she is trying to do right by the older child, "how she came into our lives shouldn't matter," etc. So he responds how she chose to do what she did in court, how she took her away from him, how now she wants what is in the child's best interest after she striped his rights, and how he will be there to pick up his daughter at 3 pm. She then responds how if she "truly loved (older child) this would not be an option" and how she will always communicate with him to try and "keep them both seeing their dad" and "if you choose to opt out you will explain that to (older child) yourself."
Well I got so angry about the twisted things she said I was literally shaking. "how she came into our lives shouldn't matter" of course BM would feel that way because she is the one who cheated. She is acting like this is a month old baby and she was actually raped and pleading with him to be a father to her. Not the reality of waiting 3 years in divorce papers to be like oh by the way she is not yours. Then what really got me shaking was her saying he needs to explain this to the child himself. ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!?!?
So anyway he shows up, while putting his daughter in the car whoever was home with the older child was not paying attention and while BM is outside the older child runs outside and BM has to go after her to get her back inside. Then BM returns to go on about how her attorney said she could give the older child to him when she wants to, that it is okay, etc. She is incredibly so delusional I can't try to explain it to anyone. I flat out told my bf it might come to a point that he has to flat out say cold hearted facts about the older child is not his, etc. to get the reality to BM's head. Just literally unreal.
Now after bf gets home with daughter BM messaged saying "to save us both money do you want my attorney to get an agreeement together and put together divorce papers? I will never sign my rights over to you with older child, but I will honor the custody arrangements. and if heads up is given I'll be flexible with holidays or time off."
To be discussed with bf when I get off work and see him face to face, but I am baffled.