So for all of you who read my update yesterday this is just building off the update from the new lawyer. When I wrote the update I was just trying to be quick and was on my phone writing it. One thing that was really frustrating with the lawyer yesterday was he asked for reasons of why my bf would not want to include the older child in the agreement. My bf told him about the false allegation the child already made against him, his rights being taken away, and the whole counselor saying she shows symptoms of sexual abuse and how he does not want in any way BM trying to say my bf did any of that because he 100% has not. The lawyer kept trying to push the issue and wanting to know reasons, asked several times if he was sure he only wanted it for his daughter, and also mentioning he could put in there "visitation for older child as BM and bf agree," so it is not totally off the table forever. I THINK and HOPE the reason he was being this way was to make sure 100% without a doubt, this is what my bf wants to do because once it is done, it is done. Then the attorney also added how asking for both if going to trial, raises his chances from 25% to 35% likely to get what he wants. I was there when the attorney called and my bf put the call on speaker so I could hear everything. He asked the attorney to hold and asked me what I thought, at this point there was no percents thrown out there, just a "increases your chances" "looks good they have rebutted it" etc. so I told him to ask the attorney what he thought his chances were with all the different options. THEN is when we got all the percents and the lawyer basically saying, there is a chance you could do a lot better than what you already have and there is a chance you could a lot worse than what you already have. One good thing the new attorney caught was the last attorney in the agreement wrote something about my bf being responsible for BM's debts and the attorney was like I assume you don't want that in there? And my bf was like definitely not! So basically when the agreement gets written up, my bf will have me also read it before he agrees to make sure it is all what he wanted. BTW my bf is not dumb, but he trusts me a lot and knows I am good at the details and catching things, etc. so he asks me to be more involved than most people would want, plus this all is part of our being 100% open.

So on to the HOPE part of the blog, I hope bf's attorney was able to get a hold of BM's attorney last night. I hope BM will agree to the agreement or at the very least, come back with a counter agreement that is reasonable and something that would be worth agreeing to. BM has said over and over again how she does not want a faulted divorce and if they can't agree, it will be going the faulted divorce route, so maybe that will help sway her. If not, pre trial is 8 days away now and bf's attorney said if it comes to that, he would ask for the default judgement at the pre trial, or it was called something like that, which would give an indication where the judge's head is currently at. Personally, I think the judge already showed how he will rule about not wanting to separate the sisters and will rule that way no matter what he hears at trial unless something really really bad happens between now and then and even then could still rule that way. At least the older child cannot be added to the agreement unless bf agrees and the judge cannot include the child either unless my bf asks for it. I also hope they can agree so maybe we can go into the new year with this being over, but if not the attorney was very certain since custody is the only thing to be decided upon, it would not even take the two days scheduled for trial. So at the very least, mid January this will be over and I could not be any happier about that.

I am happy my bf finally is not going with the optimism of the last two lawyers who have been like "we have a good chance" etc. but is being realistic. Let's be honest, the chances were never in my bf's favor and I think we have both finally accepted that and rather choose what our losses will be not some judge. My bf thinks his lawyer thinks he is a POS for not wanting to include the other child or at the very least has presented his opinion that way, but I also kind of think the attorney really was trying to push him and make sure there was not a chance he wanted to go the other way since this will be irreversible. The attorney also asked if he knew who the dad was of the child and my bf was like no, no idea, to which he was told even if he included her in visitation if the real father came around, he could get rid of any visitation he has, so why on earth would anyone risk that to just make this happen all over again?