First Phone Call Since Custody Swap
So SD went back to BM's on September 1 and we have not asked to call SD until yesterday as we have been crazy busy and we just had her for 3 full months so were trying to not invade on BM's parenting time. So bf messages BM on the app and asks when he can call SD. BM responds "8 am Sunday." Which we know she is just dying to get us back for the time we had her wait 3 days to talk to SD and made it early on weekend morning too to be petty. So whatever, this time we are letting it go to so BM can feel she got us back for the one time she had to wait. What is funny is on her whole rant she said "I would never make you wait when you ask to call SD, you'll be able to call her that day."
We decided to do a phone call this time and then the next time we will ask to Skype and will alternate on and off, so we can keep an eye on making sure SD is still not getting beat up, plus allows us to see her face and her, ours. We asked BM if we could have SD two weekends from now and BM said that SD was unavailable then, which we expected even though in messages she claims "I will gladly let you see SD on weekends if you ask ahead." I mean they could really be busy which I get, but it is just funny all these "claims" she has made, so far has not followed through on either one.
We did not give BM the burner phone we bought for SD on our time for a couple reasons. 1. Did not want to risk it being broken, lost or damaged for us to either buy a new phone or get met with issues on trying to get BM to replace it, 2. DId not want to risk BM not paying for minutes on her time for the phone or her try and get us to pay for the minutes, 3. DId not want to add more items to the list to have to communicate about.
So my question is this, after BM's antics about having to wait 3 days to call SD, bf and I thought of a compromise to allow BM an easier way to call SD, how many times of BM making us have to wait days or being difficult about calling SD until we should address it? We let this time go because we had her wait days one time, so fine, but should next time or it be the time after that we bring up how she claimed she would not make bf wait days to talk to SD that it would be the day he asked that he could and the fact that bf listened to her complaints and came up with a solution, but now BM is doing the opposite and making it difficult? We really don't want to stir up drama, but also not going to play this game with BM because she wants to be petty now that it is her time.
Also, anyone want to guess how many times in those last two weeks BM called SD even though we got the burner phone for her to call? Outside of the 1 time we had scheduled a few days before getting the burner phone that lead to this compromise? None, that is right zero.