So seems like the (2) threatening legal action letters worked! Today fiancé asked BM if he could call SD tomorrow and she responded “ok.” Then 6 hours later BM messages fiancé

“As for the birth certificate situation my plan is to hopefully have it resolved January some time. I should be able to send the paternity papers in and have it changed without a court process. I had been doing some of the research trying to avoid extra costs as I’ve already moved *BM’s oldest daughter* to our insurance in September. But all bills have been sent to me and I’ve paid them. It really is mostly a lot of paperwork. We have just been busy with some other issues. But its been in the works”

Well BM… it is about time, it has only been almost 15 months since you took his rights away, had the genetic testing, etc. so it should have been done a long time ago, but better late than never I suppose. Fiancé and I both noted that BM used “our” and “we” so we assume she has been remarried? However, we don’t care whatsoever, just get done what you are legally obligated to do already. So then bf responded “thank you for the update. Please do not forget to send a copy of the corrected birth certificate so I can send to Tricare.”

Then you know typical BM give her an inch and she tries to take a mile. BM goes on to say she will remind SD to put the phone to her ear tomorrow and a “side note” of what SD asked Santa for, etc. going on with all this misc. information that if it was an amicable relationship would be appreciated, but in a high conflict situation is just annoying. We have had to message several times about phone calls because either SD is crying when we have called, SD is always distracted for our 5 minute phone call, etc. Whatever, just get the legal stuff done so we can put this all behind us and not need to put time and energy into correcting what BM should of corrected a long time ago. As for what she asked Santa for, we got all that info when we saw her at Thanksgiving, etc. we don’t need your “help.” Some people are probably going to say that I am making a mountain out of nothing, but with this BM it is always something and we will never be friendly with her like she wrongly thinks might happen.