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Bf tells me that I am right

futurestepmomnowstepgf's picture

So for all of you who have been following my blogs regarding the genetic testing for my bf's older daughter and the entitled delusional BM, yesterday my bf finally realized I have been right. Not that he has been telling me that I am wrong per say about BM's motives, but I suppose more has hoped that was not the case. So yesterday my bf looks at the phone that he uses to communicate with BM and he has two missed texts from her, both paragraphs. To sum up what the texts said: eventually BM will have to pay for/take care of everything for the older child, that bf "needs to be involved" in the older child's therapy, BM is supportive of the love older child has for my bf and will continue to be so.... Bf turns to me after reading the texts to me and says "you were right all along" and I asked him what was I right about? He says that BM wants him to play daddy to the child until BM finds her a new daddy, that she expects him to be just as involved once his rights are taking away and that she will continue to try and use her as a pawn ....... Well I am so glad you finally realized that, I have been reading between the lines for the past month about this. 

So good news bf finally realizes that this indeed is BM's plan. We both just kind of laughed at her after this because she is so delusional to think that is something that is going to happen. News flash BM, it will never happen, as we have both said now "she made her bed and now it is time she lies in it." Bf did not respond to any of this nonsense that she texted because there was no point and if he did respond, she would just blow his phone up and neither of us want to deal with it. At least the hearing is next week so we can move on to the next stage of getting this all done and over with. 

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futurestepmomnowstepgf's picture

I want this to be done ASAP because the longer it all drags on the more emotionally damaging it is to the little girl and my bf. It has already been a rollercoaster between BM telling the little girl things that she should not be telling a child and then the child tells my bf. It all is heart breaking. Unfortunately, it will be better for both of them to move on and not be stuck in this emotional limbo.

justmakingthebest's picture

If I was your BF I would have responded with the only way I will continue to be involved is if I am able to adopt her and be the primary custodial parent of both girls. Otherwise, since you decided to have an affair, you need to clean up your mess. This isn't my responsibility any longer. 

Probably not the "right" thing to say but I have a feeling that is what I would have done. 

futurestepmomnowstepgf's picture

I like the response! Unfortunately, all that would of resulted in would be 15 text messages on how none of it is her fault, everything is my bf's fault, how the girls need her, etc. Plus until the court offically does separate my bf from the child, he does not want to do/say anything that her lawyer can then somehow twist in court next week.

I do know that after court when BM tries to get my bf involved with the child, talk about the child, or anything he is going to respond in a similar way that you would of to her at the very least. Just trying to keep calm and not stir the pot anymore till at least this hearing happens. 

It amazes me all that these BM's can do and still try and act as though they are the victim in all this and had no hand in anything. 

Siemprematahari's picture

BM will have to pay for/take care of everything for the older child, that bf "needs to be involved" in the older child's therapy, BM is supportive of the love older child has for my bf and will continue to be so....

It amazes me how she uses this child as a pawn, plays with your BF's emotions and expects for him to be "involved" in the older childs therapy. Once its proven the child isn't his, she needs to focus on who her father is and stop all this abuse that she's putting her child through. This girl will need a lifetime of therapy being raised by this insane BM.

futurestepmomnowstepgf's picture

almost as ridiculous as the week before saying "if you don't want to be a part of her life financially that's fine" like are you crazy lady?!?! why on earth would he want that!?!?! 

It is really sad, I can just hope that we can have a positive influence on the younger child's life since clearly BM is not stable