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Talk about a red flag

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and I don't mean one about bf, but rather any of the women bf's brother has been intimate with/been in a reltionship with. Basically the biggest reason bf and I have not been out to his home state until now even though we have been together over 2 years now is because bf’s family is a mess. Specifically his dad, mom, and all 3 of his half siblings cause a lot of drama and aren’t the best of people. Bf’s dad is the exception, although his mistakes are making bad decisions and having too much faith in people.

Back from vacation

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So we got back from our vacation last night and it is good to be home! In case any of you were wondering, there were a handful of photos at bf’s dad’s house. Now in his dad’s defense it is not his home, but was bf’s grandparent’s home we stayed at and his dad has been living at. His dad got surgery in July and was staying at his deceased parent’s home instead of his own because it was next door to his sister and was easier for her to check in on him.

Trying to not be too sensitive - Advice wanted

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So I am pretty excited that it finally got approved especially since we leave Monday. I am looking forward to finally meeting bf's dad, but at the same time crossing my fingers that it goes smoothly. What I mean by that is bf has warned me that his dad tends to say things he shouldn't and he hopes that his dad does not bring up BM and the child he lost rights to. If anyone remembers a while back I said it frustrated me that bf's dad kept texting bf and asking about BM's older child even though bf had asked him not to and I wish he wouldn't because it was really upsetting to bf.

Vacation? But will it really be

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So it is less than a week till bf and I are to be going on vacation? I put a question mark because we are waiting on the last and highest ranking man in bf’s command to sign off on whether or not we can travel states away back to bf’s hometown. Due to COVID-19, we did not get to take our trip we had been planning in August to visit his dad back home, but now the marine corps has loosened restrictions some so we wanted to go see him while we could, but it could take until Friday to have the papers either signed or denied. Sigh. So frustrating.

First Phone Call Since Custody Swap

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So SD went back to BM's on September 1 and we have not asked to call SD until yesterday as we have been crazy busy and we just had her for 3 full months so were trying to not invade on BM's parenting time. So bf messages BM on the app and asks when he can call SD. BM responds "8 am Sunday." Which we know she is just dying to get us back for the time we had her wait 3 days to talk to SD and made it early on weekend morning too to be petty. So whatever, this time we are letting it go to so BM can feel she got us back for the one time she had to wait.

Little Evil

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Has anyone seen the movie Little Evil on Netflix? If you haven't you might like it. The movie is about a man who married a woman with a child from another man. The step dad and the step son do not get along as the child keeps trying to get rid of him and mom is a disney mom. It is basically a horror comedy, more on the comedy side. Bf and I watched this a few nights ago and we liked it. Well I liked it until the end because WARNING SPOILER ALERT the movie ends with after spending time with his step son that the step dad ends up loving him.

Update - Potential House Guest

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So bf got home not too late last night, around 10 pm, earlier than we originally thought and had a conversation about his friend. Bf felt bad because when he brought it up and offered it, he had no idea how long it was going to be and/or that he had a dog. He agreed that it just wasn't a good idea, whether it was just the length of time or the dog, they both are issues. He thought he was executing his orders in 6 weeks or less, but it's he is getting his orders and executing them in 2021. Both are big issues and it just wouldn't be good for our pets or for either of us.

O/T - Potential House Guest for months

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So last night bf came home and said a friend in his platoon is splitting with his wife. She is currently pregnant with their child and she has two children from a previous marriage. Apparently he is sleeping on a cot at another guy at the platoon's house which is definitely not ideal. Bf then asked me if I would mind him offering the friend to stay with us instead of him staying on a cot. I said sure, that's fine he shouldn't be sleeping on a cot. Bf wanted to talk to me first before extending the offer or mentioning it to the guy.

OT - Hosting Etiquette

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So I might totally be in the wrong on this, but bf and I have married couple that we are friends with that honestly have been really frustrating lately. We have been friends with them for about a year. Every time we go over their house it seems we put out a lot of money. Up until we moved this past June neither of had the space to really host them so we have gone over there quite a bit. Bf and I have been raised right and never go there or anyone else's home without bringing something. So we ask what can we bring?

Am actually looking for some advice - sorry it is a bit long

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So today is September 1, which means it is the day we give SD back to BM. According to a conversation this past weekend BM is moving in December/January, but we are not believing any of it until we get the minimum 30 day before move notice in the mail. This is the 3rd time she has given timeline of her moving and clearly both times it did not happen. BM said if they have not moved before the spring break of the current county she lives in (March 2021) she will honor those dates, if not we will get the spring break of the new town she lives in.

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