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Well, last night we got back from our trip to the beach for my birthday. It was so much fun and so relaxing! Definitely in general was needed after the past week's events. We made a rule we were not to talk about the things going on at all during the trip, just focus on our time together and enjoying the beach. We were very good and followed that except maybe two comments that were made, but it was a one and done sort of comment, we didn't discuss it any further than that.

Thought things were going smoothly and then this email

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So an update to what is going on in regards to my bf and the investigation by CPS. Yesterday, the CPS worker did not come by for a home visit, so that will be happening next week instead. The law enforcement officer took my bf's statement over the phone in the morning and then come back around 5 pm to have him write it all down. Afterwards, the officer told my bf the investigation against him as been dropped and they classified it as bruising from the park. So that was good news, in 48 hours, the investigation had been closed against him by law enforcement.

Update to my last update: CPS

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The other blog had so many comments on it so decided to write the new update on the new blog. So those of you who said because there is no formal dates/times were correct. His lawyer said because there is no written agreement or court order, neither parent can be charged with parental kidnapping or witholding, although it does not look good for her to deny him access when CPS has not issued a protective order which they would of done if they were convinced that he abused the children. The more he asks and she denies him access, it will just look worse on her.

Update: CPS

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So many of you read my post yesterday. Which by the way clearly stated I was looking for advice on CPS, not your opinion on spanking, to be accused of putting my hands on kids that aren't mine (which I never have and never will), or for a break down of everything my bf and/or I are doing wrong. Firstly, the children go to daycare every week day they are not with their mom so usually 4 days a week. They see the youngest full body every day and the oldest they are doing a swim day every Friday and changing out of bathing suits so they are seeing her body as well.

CPS, any advice anyone could provide, please!

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Well, today is not a good day. On the 4th of July, we took the children ages 4 and 2 to the park. At this park there is a rock climbing wall on the side of the jungle gym. Sometimes, the children like to climb it and lately have been wanting to on their own. The two year old wanted to do it by herself, which she has done many many times. My bf and I were standing there watching, but not in arms distance as we have been comfortable with them climbing it after doing so successfully so many times. Well, after she was about chest high, she fell off the rock wall and landed on her butt/side.

Birthdays

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Both my boyfriend and I have birthdays in July, 12 days apart to be exact, although he is two years older than me. This year for his birthday, I took him yesterday when we did not have the skids on a mountain horse back ride. He has not been on a horse in about 10+ years, but used to have a horse and love to ride. It was so much fun and now we are talking about in the fall doing a half a day right at the same ranch to see all the leaves change. His actual birthday is this week and I have a few gifts to give him and am taking him and the skids out to dinner on the actual day. 

Father's Day

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Been away for over a month now after the last few blogs I posted, but wanted to give an update regarding Father's Day since a bunch of you helped me decide what to do for father's day for my bf. I went with the Taco shirt for my bf and the Taquito shirt for both of the girls. When he went to take the dog outside, I told him I would pick out the clothes for the girls wear that day. When really I was helping them put on their shirt and then when he came back inside had the girls give him his shirt and tell him happy dad day. He loved the shirts and we spent the day at the zoo.

Step Talk and my posts

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It’s funny, I had read on a men’s forum before finding this site, a woman saying she wrote on the men’s site instead of one involving mostly women because it was so negative. I found this site and I was like oh wow this great and so helpful! Other than a few people who have reached out or commented giving legit advice, I have felt nothing, but a lot of women here trying to belittle me and just tons of negativity. 

 

"It was an honest mistake"

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Waiting around this week has been hard. The settlement agreement should of been received last Friday, bf's lawyer wanted to wait a week and then go from there. Today it has been a week, as far as we know, no response has been given to the agreement and BM has not brought up the agreement to my bf. Plan is to wait and see if his lawyer contacts him with any news, if not on Monday he will follow up with his lawyer and will probably be getting a court date.

Tomorrow the settlement agreement goes out

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Well it has been about over a month since I talked about my bf's legal situation regarding the custody and the divorce. Also took a few week break from this site to get some fresh air. So my bf got a new lawyer, offically signed all the paperwork, met with him, and all that jazz this morning. This lawyer is cheaper than the lawyer who was essentially twiddling her thumbs and making decisions without discussing them with my bf first. Also, this lawyer thinks he has a good chance of getting what he wants in regards to custody.

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