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future sm's picture

learning curve with step kids and hoping for the best and putting the past behind us

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She_Sparkles's picture

I wish I could tell you this is going to just resolve itself and disappear.It won't.

SD will become busier and more independent but that's not going to happen overnight.Plus you have to realize she might regress once you move in and start taking away some of the time she has with her dad.Kids are needy,that's just part of the territory.

You could always be friends with her.I mean 16 is old enough that you could possibly foster a decent superficial friendship with her.You never know,if you go into it with positivity she could always start to confide in you and think of you as someone to lean on when she's feeling confused,sad,etc.

Your partner needs to realize you aren't going to be the "perfect SM" because there's no such thing.He has to be patient with both of you because it's an uphill battle.
If I was in your position I wouldn't move in with him any time soon.You're not ready.He's not ready.She's not ready.

Flying.Purple.Step.Monster's picture

What about just continuing to live in your own place and date him and see how it plays out? You can spend the night there sometimes but maintain your own place.