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SD throws BM under the bus again

FTMandSM's picture

Last night SD comes over for her usual Wednesday visit and the first thing out of her mouth, "You're not nice to mommy." And then I learn "Mommy is going to punch FTMandSM in the head." This is preceeding the comment from a couple weekends ago, "If you don't mind your own business FTMandSM, mommy's going to cut you." JEEZ MOTY, lets keep talking trash in front of your 3yr old daughter. I don't care that you bash me, but promoting this type of violence etc probably isn't the best thing to do. Side note: If you are going to talk about hitting me cutting me, please just say it to my face not to a 3yr old.

SO decided to say something to her last night at the meeting spot. BM actually admitted to saying those things and also said that her sisters were saying stuff. (Insert surpirse face). He explained to her that we don't care that she bashes me or her family, but please don't do it in front of SD. BM agreed! I AM IN SHOCK!!!!

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Willow2010's picture

He explained to her that we don't care that she bashes me or her family, but please don't do it in front of SD
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I think he should have told her, that she needs to grow up and stop bashing you period. And especially not in front of SD.

Weird woman!

FTMandSM's picture

Yeah well....the "growing up" ship has sailed....A long time ago..lol. We'll take what we can get.

Missmozzer's picture

I agree willow... When dh and I first got together Bm ran her mouth and sent all kinds of stuff to dh talking smack about me. Of course she didn't know I saw/heard it all. I ignored it at first thinking she was just bitter, but after more ridiculous crap one day, I told her ass off. She's never said another word against me ( that I know of) she quit harassing dh and a couple weeks later apologized. Things are ok between us now though I'm still cautious. Sometimes it helps to let them know you aren't going to take a bunch of shit talking.

FTMandSM's picture

Oh believe me, I have stood up for myself on two occasions, but nothing gets through to this girl. I have told her and so has SO, if I don't have anything to do with SD, then why do you always bring me up in conversation. She says things about me because she tries to get under my skin and SO's. It's aggrevating to try and be the bigger person and not get on her level. I wanted to call her last night and say if you have something to say to me, say it to my face. Don't have a 3 yr old relay the message. Have some balls and be a big girl. IT's sooo hard to not engage. But I'm trying to not give her the satisfaction of knowing that it bugged me. I think just that fact that SO had to point out to her that she shouldn't be saying this kind of stuff to SD, was good enough for me.

Missmozzer's picture

She must be crazy, and crazy jealous! Also not very smart to put her kid in the middle of her bs. I imagine it did feel good for your dh to tell her that. So sad she had to be told!

FTMandSM's picture

Hahaha! She tries to make herself seem so cool and says things like this. She has gotten over 20 tattoos with-in a year, because it's so cool to have tats. One time SO was picking up SD and BM was wearing all balck except for her bright red lipstick and red rimmed sunglasses...LMAO!! She tries so hard but always fails...

oneoffour's picture

Hmmm. Tell Miss3 that what she is saying is totally not permitted. Pull the firm but fair Mary Poppins act and tell her if she says those words again she WILL be in time-out. Is it fair? No. But life isn't fair and she should not be repeating crap her mother says or her aunts.

SO should tell her that if this continues he WILL be documenting Miss3's language and reporting it to the police which is likely to mean CPS will be involved.