I want to thank everyone for their response and advice. I've done a lot of thinking today and I know nothing is ever gonna change here but I'm ready to make a change one way or another. I'm picking up a copy of the prenup tomorrow to see how it was worded, I don't want my husband to know I'm getting it, our copy is in a safe that I don't have access to, I may try to see a lawyer and see if anything can be changed. My husband has a separate bank account from our joint account and I'm afraid if he thinks I'm leaving he will take all the money out of the joint account and possibly hide it somewhere so I don't have access.
I need to see what my rights are about taking half the money out myself, not sure how my state handles that kind of situation, I also need to talk to my state and see what benefits I would qualify for if I was single. I'm 53 on ss disability and I'm sure you can figure out if I stopped working at this age I'm not drawing much...I received $24,000 back pay and $6,000 automatically went to my lawyer, leaving me only 18,000 and after paying taxes and a few bills I'm down $15,000 in savings and I only draw $961.00 a month after they deduct taxes and health insurance so not a lot to work with but I'm determined to do my research and see what's available, I need to put all my focus on my grandchildren and not these boys that will never leave home or grow up, thanks to their father and grandmother.