So SD9 comes to visit for the holidays. Seems like with each visit things get better which is great.
The only thing we really tried discussing with her during this visit is trying to understand why she never calls or texts DH.
He may hear from her once or possibly twice a week. We ask why she does not call or text - no answer.
So DH decided well since you do not call me, then we are going to spend time together so you are not going to use your phone or iPad during visit.
Since SD got an apple watch for Christmas from BM which has cellular capabilities even when phone was turned off she was still able to talk to BM, and of course if she wanted to call her from her phone she was allowed.
So SD leaves, DH says you have a watch, iPad, and phone you can call and text me from, I would like you to call me regularly.
SD goes home the day before New Year's, DH and I both text her Happy New Year, we get no response.
So he calls her through kids Facebook messenger and he gets hung up on, he calls back twice, SD finally answers, sounded kind of mad and he asks why she did not respond, she says she is busy, okay fine.
Now she is home and we try calling her and her phone goes right to voicemail.
Of course I say to DH why don't you say something to BM, he says no he doesnt want to start anything. Whatever, because if BM does not hear from SD she has no problem calling DH and telling him to have SD charge her phone and call her.
I give up. So BM tells me I blow off SD by not calling her or texting her yet her phone is turned off and we cannot say anything, and I assume this is what has happened in the past when I have texted SD and gotten no response.