So my brother and sis in law are staying at our house saturday as a halfway point to take another seven hour drive the next day to their destination. The drive to our house from their house is about 6 1/2 to 7 hours. My DH told my SD that they were going to stay in the room that she usually sleeps in when she visits us once a month. We have two rooms in our house that only have full size beds for guests because the rooms are not big enough to put a bigger bed in them. My brother is 6'6" and barely fits on the bed himself. My sis in law is 5'4" and cannot sleep with him in the same bed so she will sleep in the room my SD has her stuff in. My SD got mad because she was being told that she could sleep on the couch. My DH told her it was only one night and she said that's fine I'll just go stay at grandma's. When he got off the phone, I didn't say anything about it but about an hour later I asked if she was mad and after not saying anything at first, he said no. I said it's not her room anyways and she needs to be understanding, which he said nothing to. So my thing is, if when she comes this thursday or friday, is it wrong to tell her that the room is not hers; she just gets the priviledge of keeping her stuff in there and sleeping in their while she's in school. I would only say anything if she copped an attitude when she got here. I've been told that I need to stand up for myself and I'm just afraid that if I do that there's going to be an attitude throwin' at me for standing my ground. I know I shouldn't care because it's my house but I guess I'm overly sensitive. When I do try to stand up for myself, I'm told I have an attitude. That's why I don't say anything. So my bottom line question is, would I be in the wrong if I said something to her about an attitude if she had one?
My brother and sis in law gave up the room so that the SD could stay in there. Wasn't that gracious of them? The SD didn't even say thank you to them. They were going to sleep in a bed together and went into the room SD has her stuff. My mistake was that I didn't tell them to go in the other room. So she wanted to know what time they were leaving because if she needed something she didn't want to wake them up. So I ended up telling my brother and sis in law to sleep in the other room so that she wouldn't wake them up. I told my husband that heaven forbid that we be gracious to our guests, that the room wasn't hers and that she was PRIVILEDGED to be able to use the room. I also told him that she was going to pack all the stuff that she has out in that room (and it is alot of stuff) and put it in the garage with the rest of the stuff. I know some people don't agree with this whole situation but I have every right to be able to have a say in a house I half pay for.