Asking for Help from Self-Entitled SD
Ok, so my YSD is here until August when she goes back to nursing school. A little background before I ask my question. YSD and OSD went to another country with their BM and when they came back, YSD was asked to do dishes and said no. I was sitting there and ask her to help and she flat out told me that she and dad had an agreement that she did her own dishes and noone elses. So from then on, she only did her own dishes. Now, she comes here and stays long periods of time (i.e. summer break, christmas break) and doesn't help do anything. I have brought this up to DH and he stated that he already told her to help out around our home but so far, she tends to stay away and go to her grandmother's house and her friends house and is hardly here sometimes. I get off work at 4:30 and we ate dinner before I got off work. I put my dish in the sink (plate) as did DH. YSD put her stuff in the dishwasher and do you think she would have put the other very few dishes in the dishwasher too? HELL NO! I was still working so I asked DH to do it and he did. Thankfully. My problem is that the YSD stays here and uses electricity, water, eats the food in the house, and doesn't help. I was ticked off one because she didn't offer to help and two because the DH didn't even think to asked her to help out. My question is how do I approach the situation with her. She is the type of person that if you talk rudely or say something to her that she doesn't like, she will get mad and then she will have an attitude. How do you approach someone like that and asked for help? I know I sound like a coward but I am not a person that will be confrontational with people like that. Advice, comments, thoughts? Is it up to me to ask for help or is it the DH who needs to step it up and direct her?