Disconnected from his "other family"
I've posted before about my disengagement from my skids due to not having any say over how they are treated, how they act when they are with us and the defensiveness that SO gets whenever I bring it up.
Sometimes I just let it roll off my back and not bother me, but there are other times, like now that it really, really bugs me. I guess PMSing probably doesn't help! LOL
Knowing that my SO has this other family that I have no parts of makes me feel very disconnected at times. I even (partly) joke to him about his wife (ex-wife) because they way they make all decisions together, talk and such, sometimes I just feel like the mistress!
I'm not involved in any discussions with the kids, whenever he communicates with her, it's always kept hush hush and a lot of times he won't tell me, he makes decisions about his and our future over what the ex and the kids want, heck even when he talks to his parents on the phone, it's always all about the kids and him. I get along great with his parents, but no one even has the desire to ask about me! It's like he has this ready made family and other part of his life that I'm not privy to at all.
Does this type of thing bother others here as well or is it just me and my hormones running wild at the moment making me more emotional than usual?