SO calls all week to pick up SD4 for Christmas. (not divorced yet, no court order) No answer, no call back. Finally SO loses his cool and yells on the answering machine. BM calls back with "what do you want?" Argument ensues over seeing children for Christmas. He goes to BM's house the next day to try to see kids. Brings gifts for boys, tries to pick up SD4. BM tells him no. Can't see kids for Christmas. He tries to call their names from doorway, BM slams door in his face. He goes to car and calls me. I tell him to knock again. He knocks, no answer.

Mmmm, BM has not cashed last two child support checks. SO not divorced yet but attorney told him to send her checks that say "child support" in the memo line. She wants him to deposit money into the joint account. So, now she is not cashing the child support checks. He's made copies of them but why?
F.

Talking about ex-wives, so many posts on here about them. I've tried to understand why they are so crazy, our BM, obviously. It has been making me sick as well. I've been making an effort to do things with friends to try to disengage. To remember life before the maniac.
Here is a taste of some of her antics.

Take herself to the emergency room in the middle of the night claiming to be found by police passed out in the car. Diagnosis-dizziness.

Two days ago SO drops off his daughter 4 to mother. She hands him a business card for a marriage and family counselor and says he has an appointment the following day at 5 pm. She says it is regarding their teen boys. She then tells him if he doesn't go the boys won't talk to him again. Knowing psycho BM I tell him to call the counselor and find out what is going on. He sends e-mail explaining how BM quit mediation (regarding divorce and custody) and is alienating children. Counselor calls and tells him the session is to help them get back together, NOT about teen boys.