I haven't posted in a long time as I've barely had my head above water. My SO is almost divorced. We fought as long as we could but the money is running out. It seems that to prove a mother unfit you need a lot of money. We were almost at the point of hiring a custody evaluator until we were told he needed a 7k retainer. I looked for a lesser cost person (although that one had come highly recommended) and found several for 5k. Well, we simply don't have that kind of money. I asked SO's attorney to ask BM's attorney for a meeting. He said they will never agree. I said try anyway. He asked the judge who thought that was a splended idea. They met. SO did not get legal custody or residential custody but he got more time and many other things he wanted. We will continue to fight for residential custody after the divorce. Emotionally and financially we cannot go on right now. He needs to be divorced and the longer he fights the longer he is married. BM continues to act crazy. She started screaming at me on 4th of July to "shove my fxxxxing" baby clothes up my fxxxxking ass." I told her those were her daughter's doll clothes (I put them in the backpack). The next week she told SO she bought tickets to a soccer game for them to go. It never ends. The children are still in the middle. The 5 year old girl told me her job is to bring daddy back. I asked her how she was supposed to do that? She said to tell daddy I miss him and want him to come home. I said I see, how does that make you feel? She said sad, I feel sad. I want everybody to be friends. We are hoping that BM will start to violate court orders after the divorce and we can eventually get a change of residential custody.