CS-Free Island, Ten Years’ Journey Away
Ten years. It will be 10 years before the financial responsibilities my DH has to SD will be overwith. Until then it will be court every year with the ex-wife who will try and claim that DH should pay her more money.
To me it is like paying for a car that you wrecked as soon as you drove away from the car dealership. It is beyond frustrating because you know that the money is going to support poor parenting and an attitude of entitlement. Not to mention all of the lies attached.
So what can I do? I’ve already gotten into a yelling match with DH simply because this is emotional. And crappy. And I wish there was a way out of the courtroom dance and the email river of sludge from BM. I want her out of our lives. But that won’t happen.
One silver lining in this whole situation is that if I make more money, BM cannot take me to court to get a piece of it. One tactical response is that if I start making more money, DH could remain making the amount he makes now. Or he could make less. He could slow down for once. And she would get less, but we would still have the same standard of living.
I think I am smart enough to get a better job but my flaw is that I lose hope in these types of situations. I try to control things that I cannot and I get upset at the lies.
There have been times where I have not purchased things for my son because we have been short on money. Yet SD13 Visits us wearing brand new clothes that cost hundreds of dollars. That is where my anger comes from. I should remember that things don’t matter. Being there for my son and loving him is what matters. That is the great advantage in life.