We have SD12 fulltime. BM has made zero contact in over 2 years now. Before that, only 3 short visits. So obviously, we provide 100% fulltime financial and emotional and every other support. And of course, I feel sorry for this poor kid Every Single Day. So DH buys new schools clothes like every other month for her. She has lost countless expensive sweaters, coats, and shoes and we always foot the bill. SD has several different outfits and jeans...YET, she insists on wearing these god-awful pastel blue stretch pants every single day that she wore as a 10 year old. They are so short, they go up to her calves and they are so tight it is just gross. She wears these every single day. It's embarrassing. Especially when DH bought her some very decent jeans that actually fit and look classy. I'm staring to think that being a cheap loser like BM is just genetic. DH has tried for several years to turn this one into a classy young lady but it just doesn't work. I feel it's such a waste of time and money to even try to help this one.