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FML's picture

Anyone who knows me on here knows I have been ttc for four years now. It has been a long painful process. I had an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year and doctor insisted on me being on nuvaring afterwards. Now I'm off and trying to conceive again and it's driving me nuts being off of it. I always feel pregnant and I don't think I'm ovulating according to the Ovulation predictor kits. I'm going insane and I'm so upset and can't function.

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queenofthedamned's picture

No offense Sally - I know you meant well - but the LAST thing anyone dealing with infertility wants to hear is to "just relax". Of course we've all heard the stories of people who "just relaxed" and got pregnant but in reality, for the millions of couples who deal with this, it is very rare.

It kind of makes the woman feel like SHE is mentally causing the problem by stressing, when in reality most often that is not the case.

queenofthedamned's picture

Oh honey. I am so sorry to hear how you are feeling. I have been there - TTC for many years with my exH and had nothing but miscarriages to show for it. It's hellish, isn't it?

My best advice for you is to take care of yourself. Eat right, exercise, find some hobbies, spend time with friends - because YOU are more than whether or not you can conceive a child. Find YOU again. It's so hard, I know, not to obsess over every little thing. But it can and will drive you crazy if you let it. I let my infertility issues ruin every female friendship I had, and I regret it now. Nurture yourself.

PM me if you ever want to chat.

simifan's picture

((((Hugs))))

I've been there and it truly sucks. It took us a long time having DS. You vent away and if you need to talk PM ne. Qotd is right . The most important thing is that you take care of yourself.

FML's picture

I feel petty venting to yall when I know there's bigger issues. I'm just on all these hormones and thinking that I'm pregnant but keeps on coming up negative.

FML's picture

Not to brag, but I am very lucky. My hubby is no where near a disney dad. He is awesome and on board. He is trying so hard not to be overbearing in this situation. But I know he wants a baby so bad. We both do. It would be so nice to raise a child with love and with someone you love. It is totally different than constantly fighting to raise a child and fighting to instill morals in them.

FML's picture

Yes. I've been tested. We have the hormones. We have the meds. He has been tested. It seems like that nuvaring over the summer completely jacked my cycles. So we have to figure those out now... and the big doozy..... DH works offshore. So he's home sporadically.

FTMandSM's picture

UGH, I'm SO Sorry....I TTC for almost two years. I know how bad it sucks. My exH had low motility and low count. I did chlomid with IUI's and was going to do an IVF but decided against it. Then a year later, my exH and I got divorced. That's neither here nor there, anyway, I understand how hard this is for you and I'm sorry that you are going through this.

When we separated I became sort of...promiscuous and really stupid. I got pregnant and had an ectopic. I had to have it surgically removed. My doc didn't put on nuvaring, but I went on the pill. I didn't want to do nuvaring.

Hang in there. I know it's tough seeing that BFN each month. Hopefully your cycles will get right and you guys can get back on track! Chin up! And I have my figners crossed for you!

CBCharlotte's picture

I'm sorry it's difficult for you, I hope it happens soon. I've never had a bio, but my friend had been TTC for years with no luck, then tried acupuncture and it worked! Not saying it will for you of course, but maybe you could try it! I've done it once just for stress relief