SS has ADHD?
We have had issues with SS's behaviour. Every day he has been sent to the office in school and constantly being suspended from school over the years. His behaviour is mainly that he talks back to teachers, walks out of class, gets frustrated easily, can't focus and can't control his anger. He is very intelligent and can understand his school work, but he refuses to show his working out on paper or refuses to do it. He is the top reader in his class and is highly motivated in sports. At first, teachers thought he chose to not want to do the right thing, but now they suggest he may have ADHD.
Toxic BM is the worst role model as a mother which wouldn't help his situation. Teachers have said to DH they can see a pattern in his behaviour when he's with her vs our being at our house. Basically we have structure and she doesn't. Still, they find he cannot sit still in class regardless. One example they gave DH was when the class was supposed to be outside using nature to do math (gathering sticks and leaves to add and subtract) he refused to participate. Complained it was boring and the teacher admitted it was a quiet and slow activity for him. His teacher let him run laps around the oval instead as he was disrupting the other students. He ran these laps 45mins straight.
I and DH don't have experience in ADHD, so DH is booking an appointment with a doctor and wondering if medication will help him focus more in class. He is full on at home. I have asked DH to put the skids in OSHC because I can't deal with having them home by myself in those awkward few hours between DH work and school pick up when he gets home. My sanity has restored since then. Anyway, we shall see how his first appointment goes.