PAS games happening again..
I am 36 weeks pregnant and feeling hormonal as all hell. I get emotional over the most stupidest things and my patience is as you can imagine is minimal.
We have put up with a lot this week thanks to HCBM filling the skids heads with absolute BS. DH asked BM to drop off the skids as he was working late and I didn't care it was only a few hours and figured the kids would watch a movie.
Well SD refused to get out of BMs car, resulting in her idling for 10 minutes in my street and BM having to stare at my solid front door as a reaction. No way am I going out there. Either SD walks in the house or she drives off with her. SD eventually walked in crying wanting to be with mummy. We then heard BM speed off down the street so I shrugged and said well looks like your staying here and gave her something to eat and let her calm down. It has been soooo long since we have had issues with SD not wanting to be here and it's alllll come ahead again.
Then the skids tell us BMs enrolled SS into a private school, and she's going to get a scholarship for him to pay for the fees. DH of course has no knowledge of this and wonder if it's even true. It's funny the cut off date for this school was at the start of this year and we are only hearing of it now? Mm ok.
Then SD says BM can't afford groceries sometimes as she pays DH child support. Lord give me strength. BM purposely works part-time so she RECEIVES the CS and government hand outs. I can't believe how much lies she is filling her children's heads with in a matter of a week. It's insane. When DH got home I unloaded all the BS I just put up with and he dealt with it but it was a stressful night. He was tired, I was done, and he chatted to the skids putting the truth back in their heads, but they hate hearing it. The looks on their faces when DH sticks up for himself.. it's just really sad. She is a master manipulator and a toxic POS.
SD is back to being PAS'd by BM. It's a cycle that I can't see will ever be broken. She has gone back to her sneaky behaviour, and annoying behaviour. Just being classic hard work to look after. Yesterday she was picking up DD2 and had gone back to throwing her around like a rag doll again. It's been months since I've had issues with SD and DD2 and everything seemed fine finally.. but the way she picks her up is a bit rough and not letting her do things herself. I can't believe she's reverted back to doing it again after so long of behaving quite well with her. I spoke to her quite firm but fair and said do not pick her up so roughly, just be gentle and let her do things for herself please.. she is capable. Then this morning I heard DD2 ask SD to pick her up and SD tell her 'no I'm not allowed too' and I was just so angry she told her that. I told SD that's not what I said to you yesterday, I told you to be gentle when you pick her up.. not that you are not allowed to pick her up at all! How can you think I would actually not allow you to pick up your own sister and tell her that? She started looking like she was about to cry and so I backed down and just left it saying 'I hope we can just be on the same page now and you now not think you aren't allowed to pick up your sister and tell god knows who when you leave your home here that I actually said that to you'. Because we all know she does tell people the wrong thing. Well she used to, as I said it's been a long time since we have had these issues with SD!
Ugh it's that sort of sh*t she says back to BM that BM believes and uses against us.. whether SD doesn't listen properly or misunderstands what we say or purposely twists the truth to please her mother to hate us more.. I have no idea! It's just annoying as we have not had this issue in months and it's reared it's head again. The timing is so predictable as I'm about to give birth in a few weeks and that means BMs CS will go down as DH has another dependent child to pay for and her children will be playing happy families with a newborn brother that BM will absolutely hate and be so threatened of. So the PAS claws are clearly out again and BMs games is in full force and it's just so exhausting as the cycle never ends! It happened when DH and I got together, moved in together, got engaged, married, pregnant, gave birth (BM refused SD to come back to our house to meet DD) and now I'm about to give birth again.. it's happening again! Grr anyway thats my vent over for today.