Ugh. Yes, sounds like a nightmare. Your DH needs to learn to not get, literally, dragged into the middle of it. But, I know that may be impossible for him since there is now a child involved. It's a shame these girls always have to procreate and create their little pawns. Good luck.

Maybe he doesn't see it as drama, but protecting his daughter.

I sure as heck wouldn't turn my back on my son. I can hate the choices he may make-and you better believe I will give him an earful, but when the shit hits the fan, I will be there to help him pick up the pieces. I'll wack him upside the head and few times as well.

But she is choosing to be with a drug addict and to have her child around one. Am I correct in assuming that she is also using drugs? I could be completely wrong. And daddy does not need to have a hand in sorting out her custody issues. It's one thing to be emotionally there for someone but it's another to stick your nose in another person's business. Whoever said he may just like the drama is spot on. Having to watch your partner wipe up his daughter's messes sucks.

This isn't something random person on the street. He's trying to help/protect his grandchild and daughter.

If I were in his shoes, I'd try to get the daughter in rehab and get temporary custody of the little girl.

If I were in the OP's shoes, I would run far away from that mess.

What a mess. My steplife is tame in comparison... knock on wood.