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Submitted by Fiona1214 on Sat, 12/15/2018 - 8:25am

well I’m in Limbo. After 18 months of dating a man with a lot of guilt about his family, putting up with cancellations at last minutes, so he could baby sit the grandkids, I’ve now been dumped because G, who has refused to meet me has told him it’s her or me. He has asked for a reconciliation but I can’t see a way forwards. He speaks to them all daily and I do respect him as an excellent  to parent but this is just the last straw

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hereiam's picture

Submitted by hereiam on Sat, 12/15/2018 - 8:38am

I wouldn't be in limbo, at all. Nothing will change and if given another ultimatum, he will dump you again. And if not, you will still come AFTER everybody else.

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 12/15/2018 - 8:41am

Not sure who G is but I assume it's his daughter? I also assume these are all adults?

If he can't tell his adult to kids bug off and get out of his business when it comes to dating, he's not a man you can have a happy long-term relationship with.

Don't give people a second chance when they "dump" you.  They will dump you again, 9 times out of 10.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Sat, 12/15/2018 - 9:20am

This isn't Limbo. This is the precursor of things to come. You will likely always be dumped. Stay unreconciled and move on with your life. 

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Sat, 12/15/2018 - 9:22am

Consider yourself lucky this situation has been brought to your attention. 

Your 18 months in of only dating (not living together or married). The first time his oldest daughter told him to ditch the GF, he did. Doesn't matter he now regrets it and wants to crawl back in. 

Life is too short for such wimpy men in one's life. Let him go and find yourself one who is worthy of your time an attention. This one has three daughters and five grandkids who are definitely his focus and priority.... do you really want to be #9 in line? 

 

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Submitted by TX2step on Sat, 12/15/2018 - 11:25am

If I had the opportunity to get out of your situation, i would. He did you a favor.  Please enjoy your freedom from this dysfunctional mess. You won't regret it. 

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Submitted by notasm3 on Sat, 12/15/2018 - 12:39pm

Ghost him.  Seriously - block him every way possible and NEVER speak to him again.  You've been dumped.  At most he wants you as a backup booty call - if his family doesn't need him first.  You can't even be friends with a person who is willing to treat you like this.

BTDT - parents not skids.  But the same situation.  Best thing I did was to leave him, and I never saw him again. He could not believe that I left him totally - but he was not willing to be a real partner to me.