Oldest SS and younger siblings
Upon the arrival of the newest baby, I've noticed my oldest SS1 has become a PITA. If he's not beating up SS2 and setting a horrible example for my 2yr old daughter who is struggling with aggression issues from watching them fight, he likes to pick up the newest baby and it makes baby start crying. I spend enough time juggling a toddler and a 2 yr old, I get so irritated when SS1 picks up his baby brother which makes him start crying. Like f♡《# man!!! I JUST GOT HIM DOWN....
He also likes to "parent" my 2 yr old daughter, and it drives me nuts. She's in a hitting mode and thinks it's play time because of the constant rough housing she sees. I can't say it often or loud enough for the older ones to stop fighting or go outside. And then to watch him chastise my daughter when she hits him.... We've told them time and time again that she hits because she sees them hit and it disrupts all the progress I make with her while they are gone (50/50 week on/off).
In my wildest dreams I could use his help with the dishes and other daily chores as opposed to his "parenting skills". Is there a better/different way to get the message through to him?