I've Got the Popcorn Ready Part 2
After my last post on SD30's new BF, I promised to keep you all updated. https://www.steptalk.org/blog/evil3/i%E2%80%99ve-got-popcorn-ready-256790.
Well, yesterday, we had a dinner for SS28"s fiancee's birthday. That meant that we got to meet SD30's new BF. He brought his DD9, so we got to meet her. I was hoping she'd display horrific mini-wife behaviours, but she didn't. She was very well behaved. She didn't jump up or interupt Daddddeeee for attention at all. She kept to herself and was very patient. Darn!!!! The BF wasn't afraid to show SD affection in front of his DD. Again darn!!!! He seems like a nice guy, but has completely different interests from what we've known SD to be interested in. On the drive home, I commented about that to DH and he said that perhaps this guy will help SD expand her horizons rather than coming home from work and napping all the time. LOL! I just about sprayed spit all over the dash! I knew it bothered DH that SD naps after work, because he HATES laziness, but I didn't know it bothered him that much (SD has been known to nap and still sleep around the clock like her BM). That comment that DH made shows that he knows that SD has faults after all.
So, a couple of more comments from DH shows that he damn well knew all along what a bloody cling-on SD always was and how she always tried to drive a wedge between DH and I. DH said what a nice little girl the DD was and how cute it was that she made a necklace for SD and gave it to her. DH said, "well, she's not plotting to kill SD yet." Again, a very telling statement. So, that let me know that DH damn well knew what SD was like to me as a child. He wasn't blind after all. Of course, I took full advantage and threw in some comments about clingy kids and how this BF's little girl was obviously parented properly and was taught some independence and doesn't need her parents in her face all the time. I told DH when a parent is constantly in a kid's face, it just makes them all the more clingy and used to being the centre of the universe. DH then knew that I was referring to him and he said that back then, he had the kids only half time. He'd tell himself that he had them for only two and a half days that week, so his thoughts were to cram everything in and he'd accomplish that by being hin the kids' faces and say, "let's do this and let's do that." He latched onto all the time and attention he could get while the SKs were at Dad's.
Given my tone and comments, DH had no choice but to come out of denial about what hell I went through. He can no longer tell himself that I was only slightly bothered. I swear he would minimize what I went through and for years I felt that he never really got it. However, based on his comments after meeting the BF and his DD, it shows that DH did in fact know how clingy, manipulative and useless SD was throughout her childhood and he knew how it affected me. I guess I'll take it. I wasn't expecting to experience DH's "awareness" as a side effect of SD's new relationship, but I'll take it. That particular side effect is a pleasant surprise. Knowing that DH knows SD's antics and did all along is really catharic for me. However, I'm very diappointed that so far the little girl hasn't proven to be a needy mini-wife. Maybe I shouldn't come to any conclusions as this was only my first observation and there are so many other ways that the karma bus can still come for SD. I can't see how a 50 year old man with two kids, a decade apart and two BMs will want to go for a third round, but who knows? Stay tuned and I'll be sure to post more updates.