Semi OT... SD having problems with my BIL (DH's Brother)..ie her uncle.
This is a bit OT.. but I'm pretty upset about a situation that is going on with my YSD20. She is a pretty good kid. Has a FT job doing payroll and HR for a local company in the small town where she lives. She also works in the evening/weekends as an assistant manager for a local restaurant. Plus, she takes online courses towards getting a college degree. She doesn't do drugs.. has had dated a few bone-heads and will have the occasional drink.. but isn't a super wild child and honestly spends most of her time working. She is smart and financially independent... her bosses love her at both places she works.
Well... BIL has somehow fixated on getting "back" at her or ruining her reputation. He works at the same company she does in a maintenance area of the factory. Apparently, when she started there a couple years ago, he got into it with another worker who made a comment about the way she looked (she is pretty.. nice body.. and 18 looks good on everyone.lol). He made it into probably a bigger deal than it should have been because she didn't hear the comment and hardly anyone else did.. it was not to be too flippant but "locker room" level of talk... not serious.. and the guy later apologized to her.
Well... recently BIL has gotten very difficult with her... he is most likely jealous that she makes more money than him.. has a better position and she is even his wife's supervisor at work now.. so I think he is very insecure. He is also a big drinker and doesn't realize that he ends up saying stupid things and being an ahole. So, earlier this summer, he was in a rage against her because she didn't "pay him right" on his check. He said he was promised 1,000 pay for a day by his manager and she needed it include it on his pay. She kept trying to explain that she couldn't pay him just on his word.. she needed his manager to document it to her.. and that he was complaining to the wrong person. My DH and I even tried to explain to him that she can't pay him without proper approval.. but he was having none of it.. and muttered "I'll fix her".. as he stumbled back to his semi-detached inlaw suite (where he lives in the equivalent of his parent's basement with his wife paying 300/month rent).
So fast forward, apparently YSD gave the guy who BIL got into it over the comment with a ride home from the restaurant because he was drunk. Again, they had since made amends since the comment and YSD was worried he would get a ticket or worse. Yeah.. probably not the smartest thing for her to do.. but she had a friend on the phone with her the whole ride she said and nothing happened. Well.. BIL gets mad and tells everyone he works with at the plant that she and this guy are sleeping together. Now, even if that WAS true (which it isn't).. that is absolutely not his story to tell anyone at work where she is also employed in a position of responsibility. That is strike one.
Now... he has also been going to the restaurant where she works and giving her a hard time bugging her there. His wife also works there and it just makes the situation difficult. She is only 20.. and has a lot of responsibility.. she doesn't need him giving her problems where she works.
Now.. another shoe has dropped. She and her friend were swimming at her grandparent's pool (remember he lives in the semidetached inlaw place beside the pool). So, he apparently takes pictures of the girls in their bikinis and proceeds to send them to coworkers and show them the pictures he took without their knowledge. His wife also found these pics on his phone.. he is trying to deny everything.
YSD is in a tough spot... she doesn't necessarily want him fired.. but she wants him to STOP. Maybe now that this has come out and everyone knows what he did.. maybe he will straighten up.. but with his pickled mind.. he will probably blame HER for him getting in trouble with his mom and wife.
I have advised her to document everything he has done.. she doesn't HAVE to report anything.. but she should have the information if she ever has to. I'm just beside myself and can't believe what a creep he was for all of this.