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UPDATE: stressing about SO's court date tomorrow

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Submitted by emma5678 on Wed, 10/11/2017 - 1:12pm

So the trial date was scheduled for today, and was only scheduled for 1 day. My SO talked to me during the lunch break and told me that it looks like the trial will not be finished today. The only thing that happened before lunch was his lawyer asking him questions. Still need to be cross examined, she still needs to take the stand, and the social worker also needs to take the stand. All of that cannot be finished in 3 hours since it took 1.5 just for his lawyer to ask him questions. (is it possible for the court to go longer than the normal 4:30 if they are somehow close to being finished?). Not only that, but the Judge won't be in for the rest of the week, and the next trial date might not even be until November.

This is so annoying, and didn't even know it was possible. I thought that if it didn't finish on the day, that it would just be continued to the next day. So much stress leading up to today, and now that stress might continue for almost another month?

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Submitted by justkeepstepping on Wed, 10/11/2017 - 1:27pm

Unfortunately it can be weeks or even months before it will be settled. Which really sucks because BM can come up with 100 other things before that time.

Hoping if goes quickly for y'all.

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Submitted by emma5678 on Wed, 10/11/2017 - 1:42pm

I have no idea why it was only scheduled for 1 day to begin with. I know plenty of other trials that were scheduled for 2 days to begin with, back to back days. It seems like courts are so disorganized sometimes. I know they handle a lot of cases every single day. I also don't know why they scheduled 2 other cases for the same exact time as my SOs case with the same judge. Couldn't the court have scheduled those other cases for 9 or 9:15? or to a different judge?

I'm just venting, I know there must be a reason why they do things a certain way. Just annoyed that they underestimated the time needed and didn't just schedule it for 2 days to begin with.

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Submitted by Pharlap on Wed, 10/11/2017 - 1:33pm

This is why courts push hard for settlements in divorce and custody cases. Of course that is impossible if you have one parent hell bent on destroying the other or refusing to cooperate. Even worse when their attorney is egging them with unrealistic expectations so they can rack up fees. I've been down that road before with my DH and greedy, selfish, controlling BM. Thankfully, I think she learned her lesson. I'm so sorry you are caught up in this. It's not fun and the stress is enough to make you sick.

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Submitted by emma5678 on Wed, 10/11/2017 - 1:40pm

Her first lawyer kept trying to tell her to just settle out of court, that it would be very unlikely that she would get full custody of them. She didn't like that lawyer and ended up with a new lawyer. This new lawyer only recently finished school and passed the bar exam.. may 2017. He is not experienced at all. Don't know how that might affect the case.

My SO was willing to work with her.. he was willing to give her most of the full summer, and allow her to visit them whenever she was up here. She didn't like that, she wanted full custody of them, down in her state. I am 99% sure that she only wants full custody of them for the child support money. Over the years, she kept telling my SO that he could have them (when he was giving her money to come see them). She only changed to wanting full custody of them when he stopped giving her money.