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Whew, SD20 dodged a bullet

Elizabeth's picture

Just found out that SD20's former boyfriend (the one with six kids with four women) is going to be a daddy a seventh time (with one of the moms of his other kids). Thank God SD20 got out before she became baby momma number five! I also found out that SD20 started dating him "before" his youngest was even born (baby momma number four was still pregnant). Who would do that?!

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3LittleDragonflies's picture

DH and I started dating when BM was still pregnant with SD3. She left him for another man when she was 6 weeks pregnant so we felt there really was no point in us waiting for SD to be born. We were engaged 2 weeks after she was born and married by the time she was 10 months old.

That being said, you SD seems a bit ridiculous and I'm very very very very very happy she didn't get pregnant.

Elizabeth's picture

Well, I'm guessing your DH wasn't a serial impregnator? I mean, how attractive can a man be who has five (soon to be six) kids with four women and hasn't stayed with ANY of them once the baby is born? He left her, not the other way around. He is a leaver and a cheater. He was currently playing two of his baby mommas and one other woman (who also has a couple of kids, just not with him) against each other in a fight for who can have him. Ick.

DaizyDuke's picture

Wow! I am in awe of you... seriously not trying to be an asshole. I can't imagine dating a man who was waiting for a baby to be born with another woman! Dating a man who had to go to the hospital to be at birth etc etc.

3LittleDragonflies's picture

It wasn't easy. BM made us feel fine about it though... she asked DH to give her BOYFRIEND a lift to the hospital, then told him to leave and come back later. Karma smacked her in the face pretty quickly though, her boyfriend told her that was a bitch move and two hours later DH and I got a call asking us to pick him up because he had broken up with her.

Elizabeth's picture

Public internet postings. SD and this whole little ring are really into drama. I know, I shouldn't look...

Anne Boleyn's picture

Whenever I read your posts, I think your SD is seriously crying out to get your H to pay attention to her, man up and BE A FATHER. This guy is not someone a college kid would normally get involved with. It sounds to me like she went out of her way to do something completely outrageous to see if her dad would finally notice. Sadly, it failed. I hate to see what she does next. Perhaps a little overdose or a suicide attempt might get dear old daddy to step up and start acting like a real father.

Anne Boleyn's picture

I think he's done too much indulging her and not enough guiding. My belief is that after the age of 15, you become more of a guide/counselor as a parent than someone who tells a kid what to do. Of course, if said kid is still completely financially dependent on you, then you get more of a say.

This dad needs to step up and say "I am happy to pay for your college and living expenses as I have done for the last two years. However, I will not do so if you continue to make poor choices and do poorly in school. I will not pay for you to take your classes over because you have failed them, especially since you're failing due to your partying and lack of focus. If you want to party your way through school and fail classes, you can finance this yourself." She NEEDS him to stand up to her and be a real father. And it's not too late to set boundaries.

PeanutandSons's picture

Hopefully she is done with Johnny Apple-Semen for good and she doesn't get back with him when he inevitably leave baby mama #4 again.