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SD19 is at it again. But does she ever really stop?

Elizabeth's picture

Checked Dh's texts this morning, as I do periodically. No wonder he doesn't tell me about their correspondence. It's so damn dysfunctional and one-sided, no way I could keep my mouth shut.

Most of the texts consist of "woe is me" from SD19 and "I love you SOOOOOO much" from DH. Gag. SD complains she's not healthy (eat crap, never exercise, never wash your hands, and you're surprised you're sick a lot?) or she's poor. The not healthy ones get instant sympathy even though he KNOWS she's a total hypochondriac and has some of the world's poorest hygiene. The poor ones get an instant money transfer from dear daddy.

The latest is SD19 telling DH she wants to get a laptop and asking if he'll "help" her pay for it. Translate: Give me money. Now, she already has a laptop supplied by her school. There is no reason she needs a second one. Plus, if you claim to be a poor college student (even though DH and BM are paying for 2/3 of her school), how can you justify purchasing a discretionary item? AND, she spends nearly every other week shopping and partying it up in our town, which is 1.5 hours from her college. So that means she's not working pretty much every other weekend plus has outlay for gas here and back, plus shopping and drinking and eating out money. Doesn't seem too poor to me.

Oh, and her and Dh are corresponding about how they just HAVE to go have dinner at this really expensive restaurant in our town that I won't even go to (haven't been since the last time we took SD for her birthday, several years ago) because it's so damn expensive. If he ends up going with JUST SD19, I think I will put a horse head in his bed.

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Sweetnothings's picture

Your sd19 is just like my sd21 !!! I always used to believe she was just a one of a kind unique type freak, but since being on ST I see soo many others coping with this type of skid, that it is just, well, frightening. Has she pulled the old sob stories for money for food, as she has run out, and there is nothing to eat ?? My DH forwarded the cash to her account, and hey presto, sd21 takes loser bf away for a mini holiday !! , Delightful, eh ??
Ours is also a Hypochondriac, is ill ALL the time, tries to get diagnosed with conditions !!! Is still at school fat and unhealthy, yet lives in a rural area, plenty of fresh air, miles of walking, sports, etc and lives walking ( that's a laugh, she rarely walks ! ) distance from the College Gym and swimming pool, her only exercise is surfing........online !!!! }:)

Elizabeth's picture

SD19 does not work out, unless you consider taking a pole dancing class working out, which of course she texted her father to tell him she was taking. I'm telling you, their relationship is sick!

I suggested Sd19 take her bicycle to college for transportation, as there really is no need for a freshman to have a car in that small town (5 minutes to everywhere). DH looked at me like I'd sprouted a second head.