Step Daughter a little too close for comfort
Hello everyone! I am new to the site, although I have been reading others post for several weeks and let me say how good it feels to not feel alone in being pushed past the breaking point with SK. Its a breath of fresh air knowing I am not the only person who feels like this! That being said, there's a topic I haven't found much reading on and I'd like some advise so here it goes:
I am married (almost 2 years) to a great guy. He's a big bearded tattooed man who has a soft heart but isn't exactly the "come here and let me love on you" type. Pretty much we only "cuddle" when he wants to.... well, ya know..... He has 3 kids. One of which is a daughter who will be 16 in July. She is not your typical 16 y/o honestly she acts about 11-12. Very book smart but when it comes to your typical teen she is not one, very young for her age. My problem is (one of them) she HANGS and I mean HANGS all over her dad. She calls him daaaaadddddy and lays her head on him and rubs his hands and arms. When we go out she holds his hand with inner locked fingers. My husband is 11 years older than me I am 29, there has been times we have been at the mall and they were holding hands and he would hold my hand at the same time and people would look at us like he had 2 wives or something. They are constantly giving each other back rubs and she plays with his hair. He has a 17 y/o son who lays his head on him and wraps his arms around him too, but not as bad as the daughter. For the last year I have tried to over look it thinking they would grow out of it, but honestly its getting worse. And now other people are noticing it. My mom and several friends have made comments like "wow they are all over him" I have tried to talk with him about it but he just gets mad. He defends every move they make in the first place and told me I was just jealous. Maybe I was feeling jealous, but mostly I feel weirded out when she's stroking his arms telling him how pretty his hair is...
The other day she even sent him a text that said she thinks about him all the time and when hes on her mind she cant help but smile. Maybe I've always dated the wrong men, but I dont think I have ever even had a bf talk to me like that! I really told myself for awhile I was just over reacting but remember when you were a kid and you saw your mom and dad kiss and it made it feel weird and you wanted to leave the room? Well thats how I feel every other weekend when they are there. She will literally gaze at him and smile and tell him hes pretty or how much she loves him. And shes 16!!!!!! How can you feel ok with having a 16 year old let alone your daughter rub your hairs and legs with her head on your chest?!?! I have a 13 y/o son and I couldn't imagine that!
Has anyone else experienced a situation like this? If so what do I do?!? Im starting to feel like "the other woman"