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easy money's picture

Submitted by easy money on Tue, 08/14/2012 - 12:10pm

I was thinking this morning if I am alone in this, I have been a SD for 7 years, I learned within 2 years
that my opinins on child rearing were not wanted, so for the past 5 years when I see something that bothers me
or needs attenion regarding the skid, I play out the converstion in my head, and never say anything.
This has not been good for my mental health, but what are you gonna do.
This is not a healthy way to live, I wish I had left 5 years ago. Sad

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3familiesIn1's picture

Submitted by 3familiesIn1 on Tue, 08/14/2012 - 12:30pm

OMG - I totally do this. I walk the scenario in my head, guess the possible outcome then gauge if its worth it or not. 90% of the time I say nothing.

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Submitted by easy money on Tue, 08/14/2012 - 1:19pm

SS is 19 and has moved out, so I thought things would get better, but not so much.
We have gotten legaly separated so she can borrow money for ss college.
She still is at my house I am trying to keep it all together but i think she is probably
going to leave. What a waste of time Sad

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Submitted by BaseballMom42 on Tue, 08/14/2012 - 12:43pm

I do that a lot. I almost always know how the conversation will go, and sometimes I try my best to keep it in, because I know it won't end well. But I usually eventually end up saying something because I can't hold things in.

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Submitted by Hanny on Tue, 08/14/2012 - 3:31pm

I just keep chanting...'none of my business...none of my business...none of my business" Try it...it helps!

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Submitted by Step-D on Tue, 08/14/2012 - 7:27pm

Yip! Same here, 8 straight years of mental degradation, problem is, it has become apparent that I am kinda just in the back ground now and that ain't gone down well either. We fought over SD for yrs and naturally she figured I just hate her but this is a 12 yr old who has no concept of time, can't count, give her a bunch of coins and ask her to make up $1:50, she can't do it. Can't make her own bed e.t.c and expects dw to do the everything. Unfortunately she suffered a major set back health wise so that has set us back a couple years. We got a 5 yr old son together and at this point in time he's the reason am still here. When bs was born thought we might sorta come together to find common ground but it never happened. This has been a major parental style collision. she's too permissive while I'm more of an authoritative parent,