Well I am a step-mom to a 17 y/o DS daughter. I raised her from 6 months old to 14 y/o. I went through 37 surgeries over 30 hospital stays. Couldn't even be home with my own children to breastfeed when they were babies because I was taking care of her. At 14 y/o her bio-mom was doing excellent and we sent her to live with her it was a "Tag your it" moment. Here we are 2 years later and bio-mom relapsed on drugs. We had to travel thousands of mile to pick my step-daughter up. She's now 17 y/o and she has regressed, been through trauma, and every form of abuse.