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SS8 needs to go seriously!!!

Dreamer2011's picture

SS8 has been terrorizing his siblings for almost a year now, he has low self esteem no question, he gets satisfaction from seeing other hurts and he is not able to focus (I think he has ADD or something). His younger brother has suffered the most at the hands of his brother's bullying. SS8 does everything, hit, scream, tease, pinch you name, he does it.

DH and I recently had a baby and I don't trust SS8 around him. I have not witness him physically hurting him because I never leave him unsupervised but this morning he started to teasing my 4 months old. I marched downstairs and told DH immediately, that I will not tolerate this shit anymore, I will not have this kid have any impact my son and certainly not at this age. He has already damaged his other brother with his bullying behavior for the past 11 months and I have been pressing DH to have him see a therapist.

Forget being bullied in schools, it's happening in our home and I can't stand it. I already told SS8 that I will not tolerate disrespect in my own home. Told DH the moment they start slamming doors and all that nonsense they see on TV that looks cool, they can't come here to our place. He will have to see them during the week at restauarants or other outdoor activity or his weekends, he will have to rent a hotel. Tired of being locked up in my room and walking on eggshells. I am sorry ladies and gentlemen, but I will not tolerate this from my own kid mind you someone eles evil spans.

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Dreamer2011's picture

Complete bullshit, why can't parents take control of an 8 year old? Time out is bullshit at this stage, time to get more drastic, being stern is not abuse...what he is doing is abuse. I really dislike him, slowing moving to hate.

Anonymous_stepmom's picture

I told SO today that if his kids harmed my animals like pull her tail, I will pull their hair, if they poke them I will poke them back, if they pick my dog up by her hind legs I will pick them up by their legs, if they kick her in the head I won't kick them in the head cause I'm not that evil but I will ask him to take them out of here. He said he understood and has been watching them closely since they have been here, his daughter who is not allowed here other then an emergency is guess what? HERE! She was apparently suppose to go to her aunts but the aunt said no at the last minute. Sure, whatevs. I can hear her screaming and carrying on downstairs right now and he's losing it. It's the usual BS, not listening, doing as she pleases, getting into shit she shouldn't be, destroying my house, being put in time out etc. Sigh..... They've only been here for 4 hours and I'm done with the weekend.

Dreamer2011's picture

Funny you mention that because I told SS8, only this morning that if I caught him hitting my dog again (for whatever reason), it will not be tolerated - I will escort him out of the house and take him back to his mom.

DH already agrees that none of his kids can be left alone with our son, especially SS8 - because they, mostly SS8 lacks basic common sense. This morning for the first time also,SS5, almost flipped my son out of his rocker. Do you know how hard you have to rock those things for that to happen. First and last time. NEVER AGAIN will I leave the dining room to go to the kitchen. I adopted 2 pit bulls and I am not afraid to leave my baby around them, they way I fear leaving my son around his own siblings. Everytime I try to engage they do some shit like this that causes me to flip out.

I wish for my own sanity that BM would move to another state and take her kids with her, I know that is not nice to say given DH will be crushed but just speaking out loud.

crystalyzed's picture

Wow my skids do the same crap!!! Watch out because you can't always keep your eyes on them and things will happen when you least expect it. My 3yoBS has problems(sleep disorder/night terrors) and the therapist believes it is the skids to blame they bump into him on purpose yell at him push him down and close doors on his face, when he was smaller they would pinch him and scare him on purpose!!!!!My husband knows these things happened but still believes his children "don't mean to do it" BULLSHIT!!!!!!Some people just let their children be raised by TV and Day care or some unfit babysitter, stick them in the back of the car after work shove fast food down their throat, while on the cell phone the whole time talking abut their plans to go out, the only time they talk to their kids they pour crazy unrealistic ideas into their head!!!!!! Yup they don't teach their children to be kind to any one!!!!! Low life BM's are actually the people who end up screwing up the world with their sick minded children!!!!

Dreamer2011's picture

So sorry to hear, this is why I stay in the room with my son on their weekends because I can't have crap like this happening. I am happy that I have the liberty to be at home with my son because I want to actually raise him. And I will protect him from things like this.

Skids are always leaving my house a mess, so what I did this weekend is that I figured there are here 5 days a month and since they are not considerate enough to clean after themselves, I decided to go to Ikea buy storage bins for them and put all their toys in their room. I turned the playroom into a work office, I figured they don't live here and its not fair that I have to give up yet another room for them. If they want to play, bring a toy from upstairs and then put it back, none of that, "lets play with everything in every room and NEVER CLEAN UP. If they want, they can have their room like a pigsty but not my entire house. I also got locks for my son's nursery, bedroom and bathroom.

Anonymous_stepmom's picture

Both skids have harmed my baby, he's only a year old and the incidents occurred before he turned one. His daughter has slapped my baby, pushed him down, poked at him, hit him on the head and when he was just wee little he was in a swing and she ran up and pushed it as hard as she could nearly knocking it over, you could hear the motor grinding in it because of how hard she pushed it.

His son just recently did something very horrific, we were in our vehicle taking a friend to her BF's house, she got out to get something from the store quick, his son just ever so calmly un did his seat belt came up to my son who was strapped into his car seat happily looking out the window and hauled off and hit him so hard he bruised him. I F.R.E.A.K.E.D to say the least. His children are NOT allowed to be left unattended with my son at anytime EVER. The even scarier thing is this kid had no expression on his face and never showed any remorse. I know weeks later he asked his mom if daddy was still mad at him, and he was told, what did you do wrong? He said I hit the baby. SO was like oh see he's sorry. Um NO he's not sorry, he just doesn't want YOU to be upset with him anymore, he still doesn't care he hit the baby and still has never showed any remorse for doing it.

Anyways, in the short amount of time they have been here today SO is pissed and stressed to say the least, he hasn't had many problems with the boy but the girl is freaking unruly, she's suppose to be on meds too, I don't think they are doing a freaking thing for her. If I hear her shriek and carry on once more or talk back I'm gonna snap.

Dreamer2011's picture

Guys thank you so much for sharing your experiences, I would not want this to happen to my son or anyone else for that matter. Your thoughts have me thinking long term, I don't want to wait around for something to happen before I take action. I will be preemptive about this and really go hard on DH because his younger son from his first marriage has been affected deeply so its not like it hasn't happened already.