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I was so mad at BM yesterday! I got to school for SD12's meeting and two teachers and the councilor came in. I was thinking something must be VERY wrong! But what it was is SD is suppose to be in special education. I was floored! I didn't think she had any problems in school. Teacher said she was suppose to be special needs classes for Math, Reading, and Social Studies. But then they told me she was in a advanced reading level for her age and grade. I was also informed that the state of North Carolina never even tested her before placing her in any of these classes. BM NEVER told us any of this! Teachers said the file stated BM never even went to any of the meetings.

The school let me sign the papers to have her tested so she will be placed correctly next year. She's going to have to undergo both educational and phcycological testing. They said it will take about three months, so she'll have to test this summer also. DH was shocked when I told him too. He called and chewed BM out.

Then today......... ugh..........

SD10! Anyone want her? Boy somedays I wish and pray she would go back to her mothers!!! This morning she was playing with her food and I told her to stop. DH defended her! 20 minutes after breakfast SD10 goes storming threw the living room stomping. I asked her to stop. On the way back threw she was giving her "eat crap and die" look. I told DH and he asked her what was wrong. She turned to me and screamed "you" (me). Then she went storming towards the kitchen. I told her three times to get her butt back in the living room. DH finally made her come back in there. I told her if she had a problem with me she better tell me b/c I wasn't putting up with her little fits. She said it was what I said. And I said "what you stomping? You sounded like a herd of elephants and your dads 300 pounds and doesn't sound like that so she could walk without stomping too." She said it was what I said at breakfast. I asked he what and she said I was saying she was playing with her food.

I told her excuse me that was over 30 minutes ago and it's just now bothering you? I don't think so. She was mad b/c it was her turn to do the dishes and she didn't want to. My DH went off on me again! Telling me every horrible thing he could think of. I'm lazy, won't get a job, on and on. I ended up telling him to go to hell and I stormed out of the house to a job interview.

Tonight SD10 once again starts showing her butt and ordering her sister around. She told her sister over and over again to do something for her and over and over I kept saying please. Thinking sooner or later she would get the point and say please. Instead she turned to me a screamed if you would shut the F**k up maybe I could say please. And went off on me agian.

I told her that it amazed me that when her father wasn't home she had no problem listening to me but I'm not going to put up with these little shows she does for her father. I told her that I was two seconds from getting the pattle and beating the crap out of her and don't bother looking for help from your father b/c he's already told you today that if you didn't stop talking like that you were going to get your face slapped!

I went outside with DH to calm down and told him that this is it, the final straw and he needed to find a local job b/c I wasn't putting up with it anymore and one more outburst from her and I wasn't watching her anymore. He said that she wanted to go back to her BM's but BM wouldn't take her back. He said to go tell her what I thought and he would back me up.

We went back in the kitchen and I told her if it didn't stop I was calling Social Services to come pick her up and she could live in Juvy. That her BM wouldn't take her back b/c of her additude and I wasn't taking it anymore. I told her she would be given the choice of foster care or rehab hospital. She didn't think the second choice was bad until I told her about the strip searches, being watched 24/7 even in the bathroom, and being locked in.

I ment what I said I'm threw! SD12 can stay but SD10 better straighten up or she's got to go! DH always yelling at her for trying to order everyone around and acting like she's the parent. She even tries to order DH around! It's her BM's fault, she let her get away with murder, treated her like gold, and let her tell her older sister what to do. While SD12 had to do all the chores and take SD10 order or get chewed out by BM. That's not going to fly in my house!! I am the boss of my house, even DH knows that. And NO kids is cursing me and chewing me out. I've put up with it for three weeks, but no more!

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Grammyto4's picture

Good for you. You need to put your foot down now before it gets any worse.

frustratedinMA's picture

No wonder those two fought in school a lot.. Poor SD12 and Poor you.. christ.. I wouldnt put up w/an ounce of it. My mom keeps telling me that each time my skids act disrespectful to put them on a chair w/no view in front of them and nothing to do.. Then tell them they have to sit there for at least 5 mins, after 5 mins they can tell me what they did wrong to be on the chair, if they cant, then they sit there til they can.

Wonder if that would work for you? I have yet to try it yet.. but that is because we only have them EOW. And this was based on the last time they were fresh.

steppie1999's picture

Have you ever actualy gave SD10 a little smack in the mouth when she talks to you like that?? If it's only been threatened she's pushing to see if you'll actually do it.
Trust me, I had to do it once...only once...didn't hurt a thing but their feelings and they never talked like that to me again

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