Good morning everyone,
SS13 lies. About everything. It makes me worried.
SS has made some accusations against DH and then backtracks the next day. The problem is- it's an outright lie and/or an attempt to promote some victim narrative to BM so that she'll coddle him some more.
EX- SS has accused DH (to his face) of choking him. "Remember on this day XYZ you choked me!" Well I was there that day and DH never laid a finger on him (and never has). DH went to bed with tears in his eyes wondering why he would say something like that? Why would he lie? The next morning DH tries to talk with SS about the whole thing... SS says, "oh I never said you choked me. I just said..." (trying to mimimize his remarks). Now I never get involved- but I got involved. I called SS out and he left the house to get on the bus without saying a word. SS was trying ot gaslight DH and I wasn't having it. He's also to prideful and stubborn to apologize. I feel like that whole incident still isn't resolved... DH definitely could have called SS out- but I think he was honestly just stunned by the whole thing he didn't have words.
He will lie for attention, to manipulate, to get what he wants, etc. DH and I have caught him lying to BM about us (little things) and she's too stupid to inquire without jumping to conclusions- "you picked him up late!" (Not true) feeding further into the split.
My concern is this- if SS will lie about DH, he will have no problem lying about me. If he lies to his mom or her family- they would have a field day trying to attack me. DH understands this is a real possibility (knowing his son and BM/her family) and promised if that ever happened he would have my back... however- I just don't feel safe living with someone who is so quick (and comfortable) lying.
I have disengaged from him- but when he antagonizes DD2 or is acting like an over the top attention seeking obnoxious ass- I call him out every time. I think it's only a matter of time that he lies about me- as I hold him accountable and he hates it.