SS13 asks DH for money when he's with BM
Just a quick, short rant. This weekend SS was with BM. This woman has more money than God- but is as cheap as they get (which I understand is entirely her business).
HOWEVER- SS actually wanted to go out with some classmates this weekend (that never happens)- and started texting DH for $$ to go out to meet his friends for dinner.
One of two realities- 1. BM was giving him a hard time about money OR 2. SS just assumed he would get DH to drop whatever he was doing to bring him cash (had it been 4 years ago- he probably would have. Time and boundaries later- that shit doesn't fly.).
Either way it seemed inappropriate to me that SS would try to get DH to stop what he was doing, drive to BM's house just to bring him money becasue either 1. she refused/was giving him a hard time or 2. because SS just assumed DH would pay.
Now I'm very proud of DH because he did not bring him money. If he did- BM and SS would just expect it moving forward. SS already treats DH like an ATM and BM would be all to happy to let DH pay for anything/everything related to SS- draining our bank account while preserving hers.
SS and BM are the same person its awful. Self centered and self serving. It just seemed rediculous to me that SS would think to text DH while he was with BM asking DH for money... maybe others have dealt with this? Its a first for me and I'm floored. Proud of DH for holding his ground. I could tell it was somewhat difficult for him to set a limit- as he felt conflicted. He wants SS to socialize but he can't be the only parent promoting (and paying) for socialization.