All the hard work for nothing.
That’s got to be one of the hardest things in all of this. SO’s son M is 4. He’s very difficult at times but the thing is it’s not his fault. He’s not being taught different. We fought with him through the whole 6 week visitation. Not just me. It’s his dad leading it or else my attempts would be useless. We set rules and we stood by them. We saw improvement.
Not 4 days after he goes back to mommy and all of that work is for nothing. Mommy doesn’t want to make the 4 year old behave. She doesn’t want to make him sad or angry. She doesn’t want to be his parent. She wants to be his friend.
So all the work is for nothing in the long run. He continues to struggle with basic behavior but it’s not his fault when you’ve got a mother who won’t be the adult.
Then on top of it you’ve got mommy calling yelling that things need to change. Blaming dad for her failings. Stop carrying your son, stop using a sippy, don’t let him do this, make him do that. Oh it’s just so hard he won’t listen.
Women he’s not that way with us.
And it's not just impacting him. It impacts his sister. She has to deal with it. She has to put up with him physically attacking her, taking her things, and spiting on her because "oh he's just a baby". She has to do this and that and everything for him because either he won't or can't and mommy doesn't want to do it. No 7 year old should be bathing her brother and dressing him because mommy's too lazy to make him do it himself. Sure the melt down's sucked the first few weekends but the boy knows how to put on his pants.