SD12 has been basically living with us full time for almost 2 months now. DHs guilty dad parenting has gotten even worse and I didn't think it was even possible! I have disengaged from SD12 completely. 

It has been almost 6 years being around BM. You think it would get easier, right? Well, the last 2 have been pretty low key. (Compared to the restraining order I first had on her when DH and I started dating...) Minimal interaction or dealings with each other. It's been nice. 

It was SD12 birthday last weekend. DH let her pick a place where she wanted to eat. She chose Sushi. DH doesn't eat sushi, so he just doesn't know much about it. They picked out a fancier restaurant. DH asked SD12 what kind of sushi she likes. "The one without the fish or seafood." LOL seriously? I couldn't help but laugh. DH asked what was funny. I said that's literally what sushi is! Either raw or sometimes cooked (crab or shrimp.) Whatever, it was her birthday and it was what she picked. 

DH has 50/50 with BM. SD12 goes to the middle school in our neighborhood per CO. This past school year was terrible. Bullying (on her part too), poor grades, attendance issues etc. 

BM lives 30 - 45 minutes away... because of this BM would typically give up majority of weekdays so she wouldn't have to drive SD12 to school. Nothing consistent. Everything was last minute. For example she would text DH. "I know it's my week, but I need SD to catch the bus to your house. Can't pick her up from school today."