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Submitted by DHsfamilyfromhell on Sat, 05/04/2019 - 9:32am

Anyone got any tips for dealing with resentment of SO, about stepkids. You know, simple stuff ‘sayings’ like it will all look better in the morning’. Stuff to get through each day. I’m absolutely fine when it’s just my 2 bio kids and I at home. It’s absolutely lovely. Then my SO comes home from work, and I lack the creativity to keep my brain occupied so I don’t stick my foot in my mouth and come out with something...my husband has currently taking to sitting staring at me when I go quiet in a bid to ‘chill out’. And it makes me quite uncomfortable. 

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SteppedOut's picture

Submitted by SteppedOut on Sat, 05/04/2019 - 10:08am

I have no tips or tricks to "make it better". 

But I do have a question/comment.

If you have reached that level of resentment, based on your user name and post, due to your husband's family and his inability to correct or maybe see any issues... are you even happy being with him anymore?

If nothing will ever change in your situation...and you are constantly resentful and unhappy when your husband is home... maybe it is time to reassess your marriage/living situation. 

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Submitted by sunshinex on Sat, 05/04/2019 - 5:02pm

I would not want to be in a relationship where I needed "tips and hacks" to make it bearable day-by-day. Steplife can be difficult and overwhelming, sure, but if it's unbearable to the point where you're making it through the day, maybe it's time to consider parting ways. 

 

sunshinex's picture

Submitted by sunshinex on Sat, 05/04/2019 - 5:03pm

Also, what do you mean staring at you lol if my husband was doing something that made me uncomfortable, a quick "hey dude you're being weird" would stop it... 

StepUltimate's picture

Submitted by StepUltimate on Sat, 05/04/2019 - 9:04pm

"For today, I can deal with _____ that I couldn't deal with forever."

As in, it's temporary. 

That and the Serenity Prayer has gotten me through many moments/hours/days... 

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Submitted by Mommy22 on Sun, 05/05/2019 - 9:22am

No advice. But I can relate, I have developed resentment toward my SO over the years. I was just talking to a friend last night about how I didn’t know if I’d ever be able to forgive/get over things. I guess time will tell. 

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Sun, 05/05/2019 - 5:42pm

His trying to intimidate you or gaslight you into feeling awful because he feels awful. How childish. If you don’t want to leave him then just relocate everytime his tries to sit and stare at you OR confront him about it. Don’t fight with him because he’s looking for a fight just say “I can tell you are unhappy that I am having a good day. Maybe you should find something to do to get your mind off of whatever’s bothering you so much” then let him decide to fix his attitude or if you should move to another room.