Help I Hate My Stepdaughter
I'm married to a great man, we're a blended family, I have a daughter (14 year old) from a previous marriage and he has a daughter (13 year old from a previous marriage), we've known each other over a decade, because we were friends first and married other people before and then after our failed marriages we rekindle our friendship and ended up dating and realized we're meant for each other, however, my husband got full custody of his daughter on his divorce, and she's a nightmare.
I feel horrible because I don't want to feel this way but she is selfish, she doesn't help around the house, she sits with her legs spread open in our living room when she's watching tv, she doesn't clean after herself, and my husband just babies her!!
When we got together our daughters were 10 and 11 we started living together in 2018 and we got married last year. My daughter used to be very helpful around the house but since we moved in she's started becoming as lazy as her stepsister and I feel like is unfair to make my daughter help me clean the house while his daughter sits in her room laying in bed all day on her phone.
It's getting to the point I see her and I instantly get in a bad mood and I know my husband can tell. She pretends she doesn't know how to do things and my husband just do everything for her, like cut up her steak!! Clean up the dishes, clean their bathroom, vacuum her room etc.
She dresses like a skank knowing she'll get in trouble at school, she lies when she's in trouble and to make thing worse she looks just like my husband's ex wife so is like I have a young version of her living in my house making my life a living hell!
Sometimes I want to pack my things get in my car and drive away from her and tell my husband to call me when she's grown and out of the house because I can't take it anymore.
Please tell me I'm not a horrible person for hating this kid...I try not to, but she makes it impossible to at least like her. I'm also Bipolar and a Disabled Veteran with a lot of issues, I like my home clean and organized, raising a child who acts like this without having a mental breakdown on a daily basis is a big challenge. I'm scared she's going to make me lose my husband