AAARRRGGGHHHH!! Why exactly do men feel that women are responsible for EVERYTHING????

I work full-time as a secretary, sort of. I do alot more than that...I am in construction, so many times I'm a project manager, collections agent, and I am without a doubt the "office Mom". I clean up everyone's mess, remind people of appointments, etc. I was due for a raise in September, and my boss finally got around to discussing it in late October. I told him what I wanted (not nearly enough, but times are hard, and I'm not greedy), and he said he'd get back to me. He never did.

The boss, one of the guys, and I were talking about finances on Friday, and my boss said something to the effect that "he was the only one making concessions", due to the economy. He jokingly asked if anyone wanted to give back some money. I said I was willing to forego my raise....then said, "Oh yeah, I already did." Semi-joking, as it's been quite some time. He told me that "I would be taken care of". Later, the accountant asked about the discussion re money, and advised me that I had been given a raise. It was not even HALF of what I discussed with my boss MONTHS ago, and nowhere near what I should be paid. I am actually offended. I am paid less than 1/4 of what most of "the guys" receive. I realize that I'm not a UNION person, but geez!!

Today, my MIL is coming over. DH doesn't lift a finger re housework typically, but you would think, since HIS mom is coming over, he would help out at least a bit. I've been cleaning since around 8am, but has he helped? NOOOOOOOO.... He's watching TV, playing with his phone, etc. I didn't plan to cook a big breakfast, since I am very busy trying to get the (admittedly) messy house in order, so he grudgingly agreed to make breakfast. I guess that's my help for the day...week...whatever.

My son does the cleaning for my office every two weeks, and of course today is cleaning day. I help him...it's kind of a bonding thing for us, as well as just a way for him to earn gas money and etc. So DH knows that I'll be working for several hours at the office, as well as all day at home. But apparently I still don't get any help.

I love DH, but you know what? I am not the only one responsible for this house. I'm REALLY fed up. I make his breakfast, lunch, and dinner almost every day, as well as work full-time, and TRY to keep up with the house as best I can. I CAN'T DO IT ALL.

Okay...vent over. Thanks for reading this far.