Step Son Wedding Dilema
DH was married two times before we met and fell madly in love. I didn't know about the first marriage and then 12 year old stepson at first, just his mean exwife and the two SD's 5 and 2. He told me about ex #1 while we were driving down the highway at 70 MPH and though I wanted to jump out I couldn't.
EX #1 and DH were married right out of high school. It lasted four years and he caught her cheating on him in their house. SS was being neglected. EX #1 had turned into a terrible alcoholic and SS witnessed some horrible things.During the divorce DH tried to gain custody but it was always the mother had full custody. DH had visitation EOW and only missed one weekend.
EX#1 remarried shortly after and that husband divorced her eventually marrying an old friend. Now SS26 has told us he is getting married to a really sweet girl. SS and everyone involved are very nervous about BM attending the wedding because she is now drinking more than 20 drinks a day. BM visited SS at Christmas and he said she starts drinking at 8 a.m. and doesn't stop until about 6p.m. when she switches from vodka to beer.
Any ideas on how to manage this at the reception and reharsal dinner? We are paying for a large portion of the expenses and are limiting the alcohol to beer and wine- cash bar for mixed drinks. Also EX is very antagonistic towards DH and me. She gets abusive when she is drunk and calls our house in the dead of the night and ask to speak to her "husband".They have not been married for 23 years. Now we have an unlisted number. Ideas? Help?