My horrible weekend with SD5
I just found this site. I'm not sure where to start. I have no children of my own, and don't plan to. I'm very frustrated with my SO and my SD5. My SO and BM don't get along, and BM uses SD to manipulate SO. He lets SD do whatever she wants in the house, and out in public, because he's so scared of losing her to BM that he wants to be her best friend. Of course, BM has a new SO and so of the four of us, I'm the only person even remotely interested in disciplining SD so that she becomes a semi decent person as she grows older. She's also an only child. She screams bloody murder when she gets so much as an ant bite, which might be standard 5 year old behavior, I'm not sure, but because I'm not her BM, I'm not fooled by her crying wolf, and I think that the manipulation is horrible.
Here is how my weekend went:
Friday night, went out with friends. It's a "Dad" weekend, and they end on Monday morning instead of Sunday night. So I decided to go out and have a good time with the bit of freedom I'd have. Had to get up on Saturday morning to go to a kids' birthday party, which was fine. Then we all decided to eat at some unique chain experience, which was meh. Then a bit of rest. I noticed that SD got paint all over the kitchen chair upholstery and told SO to discipline her, so he made her help him clean it up. I doubt he ever would have said a word if I hadn't told him to.
Sunday during the day, we went to the movies. SD insisted on sitting between us, and every time I would try to hold SO's hand or vice versa, SD would get up and crawl in his lap. Annoying.
I work two jobs, one 9-5 M-F, and one part time on Tuesday and Sunday nights. This Sunday night I had work. I work at a bar as a karaoke DJ, and Sunday nights are the worst, because every other Monday morning I have to wake up at 6:30 AM to get SD to school and us to work on time. So, last night I got home from work at 2:30 AM, right after work, and SO is at the door to tell me that SD is sleeping in the bed with him because she had a nightmare. I told him that it was okay and I'd be upstairs in a bit, thinking that he would relocate her back to her bedroom.
Nope. I get in the bedroom and not only is SD still there, and hogging the bed, but is also half naked. Now, I understand that this is a natural occurrence amongst parents and their children, but I'm not her parent, I'm not accustomed to being around children, and I've only known her for five months. It's 3 AM at this point, and I finally just give up and go downstairs and sleep on the couch until 6:30.
I explain to SO why I didn't sleep upstairs, and SO said, "She's quickly becoming your kid - look at how much time she wanted to spend with you on Sunday!" Yeah, time when I was supposed to be NAPPING because of my JOB that causes me to only get AT MOST four hours of sleep on Sunday night/Monday morning. I told him that I hate how he's thrown me into this situation and how he has this fairy tale expectation of everyone living happily ever after immediately. He got offended, because God forbid I ever say anything about SD other than, she's perfect in every way.
That's all that I have for right now; I just really needed to vent. Thanks, StepTalk. You'll be hearing more from me in the future.