I hate my boyfriend mother and 1st family
I am so happy I found a place to let it out! You guys have step-kids that are little kids...my are 21 years old and 17 years and I dislike them sometimes. My husband and I have a six and one year together. I have three other kids that are not his. When it's just me and my kids we're happy. He's always getting calls from his ex and his mother(B@#%*)from hell. The kids are mad at you, because you don't make time for them only for your other family. We are very busy at times but when he calls them they never want to come over and they never answer his calls. I hate how he's always begging to see them. Then when they don't show up or call he walks around all sad and hurt. They only call when they want money or rides. If he doesn't do something they want, they tell their mom or grandma. Then they call him talking Shit. His 21 year old has left him messages saying oh, you only care about your other kids not me, if it was your other kids you would do it and etc.When I was going to have my son the first thing that came out of his son mouth was I hope it's not a boy because I want to be the only one! When is ex found out it was going to be a boy she said great he always gets what he wants. She felt she had control over him because she had his son. When we found out it was a boy she was mad and started giving us more problems. Calling all the time to start fights, saying he didn't care about their kids and that's why he left her. She always putting things in the kids head so they will fight with him. I hate how my husband doesn't put a stop to this. lately I have told him that I don't feel right when his kids are around, because I know they hate my kids or are jealous. I think they are too old to act this way. What do you guys think? What should I do? It's been 9 years and things just keep getting worse. His mom likes his ex because she was a kiss ass to her. She doesn't like me because I wont act like his ex. His ex wont let him be happy because she's still hurt over him leaving her 20 years ago! His kids hate that he's happy being a good dad. I wish they would all get over it already. I don't talk to my ex at all! if my kids want to talk to him they call him. He doesn't give them money or see them, but I don't tell them to hate him. Sometime I can't take it! I just want to take my kids and go. Never look back!! Puzzled Help! :jawdrop:
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Thanks, I wish someone would
Thanks, I wish someone would tell them to get a life and leave us alone!
This sounds like everone
This sounds like everone else's problem. Doesn't need to be owned by you. Good grief, if they can't get past this one how are the kids going to handle "real life"? I'd ask them how THEY would fix it. Bet they don't have a realistic answer, but it'd sure be nice to hear THEM try to problem solve instead of complaining about it.
I think a big part of it is
I think a big part of it is their mothers feeling about their dad. She can't get over the fact he's not with her, I was with my ex for 12 years before we ended. I don't talk to him at all! I told my kids they can call him or see him when ever they want. That me and their dad just can be friends anymore. I drop them off at their grandma's house, when ever they want to see that side of the family. I don't call for money or feel angry about anything. He left us for another women with four kids and he takes care of them and not his kid. I don't understand why this women can't get over this! These kids only call for money, rides or when they are in trouble and want him to drop everything and go take care of their problems. They do not have any problem solving skills. :O
He was with her in high
He was with her in high school and they had their first kid. He was only with her until the kid was one and then he left her. He said they were fighting a lot and he didn't want to be with her. He tried to date other people but she wouldn't leave him alone. He had a one nightstand with her, and later told him she was having a baby. He didn't stay with her when she found out about the baby. He was not there when his 17 was born. I guess she and the kids are really hurt about the past. He is now in his 40's and loves our kid very much. He tries to do all he can to be a good dad. And like said he tries to call and take out his older kids but they never want to do anything with him. When they hear we did something together they get mad about it. His ex is married and has a kid, but she's still always calling and tells him why should he be happy if she's not.
do think it's the mother? in
do think it's the mother? in my case some of it is the mother. I really tried for the first years, but after we had our first daughter they started changing. My husband wont tell me what they say on the phone now. Because not to long ago his mother and 21 year old wanted him to leave for two weeks with them on vacation. While it was Christmas what the hell are they thinking! I said no! you just can't get up and leave me with work, the house and no help with our kids. My kids are 6 and 1. I told him that he need to tell his D that he's not a bachelor and he has a family. If she wants to take make up for time lost then, take her somewhere Friday -Sunday! Well she had a tantrum, she called her mother and told her he couldn't go. The mother called him and left him a message about what a bad father he was, how he would do it for his other kid, how he left her and his two kid and even threatened him saying he was going to be sorry for doing this! (crazy b@%&*) He let me hear the message and I was really mad. He tried calling his D but she wouldn't talk him. I told him to stop begging her she need to get over it, that not even our 6 year would do something like that.ugh these are the things that go on in my life now. I understand you }:)