i ask myself why i do this crap at 27 (i dont think my situation is like yours, as we have 50/50 and bm has never taken us to court), but at 21 with no kids why do you put your self through this kind of thing. i know people are supposed to be supportive and what not on these blogs, i just cant help think of what i was up to at 21, and it wasnt dealing with this stuff! if things dont work out with you and bf/dh/fh (i dont know what your SO is) will this stuff be on your record? can it be used against you later?

How long have you been married?

Cooking? Well, oh my goodness!! Who can tell you you need cooking classes? I'm sure that you are trying and that the children are fed. That's just a joke! I was single for a really long time... I NEVER cooked. So when SD came to live with us, that was the big cooking lesson!!! And it wasn't always fun!! (I really had a hard time getting everything out on the table at the same time!) I'd be so embarrassed if anyone came to see what a mess I made in the kitchen!!

Anyway, I'm wondering why they would say that you need Anger Management classes? I'm guessing that (rightfully so....) you were a little upset when they came over. And please, don't take this the wrong way.

If you are NOT married, then you may want to proceed very very carefully and see if this (crazy BM life) is what you want.

If you are married, I'm not in agreement yet that you should just leave based on this one blog. Did your DH support you in your hurt feelings? Does he think this is all a big farce? Is he worth it? If he is, then go to the classes. What have you got to lose? You could even possibly learn some different coping skills.

AND I'LL GIVE MY BIG DISCLAIMER HERE - THIS IS MY OPINION... if the court ordered you to get Anger Management, they saw something they felt warranted it. Don't go because it's court ordered... go because you might actually have something to learn.

i didnt really stress it before, but the stats for these blended family's working out are not in our favor. I would really look in to how these things could effect you. what if you go for a job that they do a background check and see that you were made to take anger management? regardless of the fact that its the crazy bm who created the situation, the people wont care. if you ever get a job that has anything to do with kids? i would believe that this for sure would effect you negatively!

my best friend lived at her mil's with her dh and bs3, the bil and wife lived there as well with their 2 bs's. the bank teller saw the bil's kids which had taken some spills as most rowdy boys do and reported them to child services. EVERYONE in the house was investigated, including my best friend, even though it wasnt her kid...its still on her record.

I would seriously research what baggage you will be carrying on your own from dealing with all of this.

Hey - so are you saying that for like darlingkd, it can just be a word of mouth thing... that someone doesn't come out independently to confirm her allegations??

Did your BM get away with it because she works for Child services? Wow... I live in NYS and every time I read your posts... I'm like THANK GOD we are not in your jurisdiction. But is there no recourse for you, or would it just be too expensive to fight her (and the government??)

My ex (the BF) has constantly threatened to call CPS on me whenever he thinks I'm doing something wrong (my diagnosis of him his paranoid dillusional). He's done that since our BS8 was a baby and we were still married. Stupid man. I don't know if he's ever actually called (he threatens a lot I think but never takes action because deep down he probably knows how rediculous he is) but I constantly live in fear that my son will be taken away. I am the custodial parent with physical custody approx 60-70% of the time. My ex is a wack job and makes my life hell but the the fear of being investigated for rediculous claims is overwhelming.