Why do adult skids need to "spend the night"?
DH and I had a conversation yesterday, which by the way, I knew was coming because SD will be coming "home" from University the beginning of May, and I KNEW that DH would be wanting to "test the waters" about her staying with us. During our convo, he says he feels like a crappy father because he has to tell SD20 she has to stay at a friends or MILs when she's home and he can't even have SS19 to the house to maybe go turkey hunting and spend a night or two. Poor DH, he has to meet his ADULT kids at restaraunts or MILs or what have you and talk to them on the phone or text them.
I asked why adults need to "spend the night"? My father lives in Arizona and I live in New York. It has been this way for 40 of my 47 years of life. I have NEVER spent the night at my dad's house and our relationship is just dandy. I moved out of my mom's house 2 weeks after I graduated from high school. I have never spent the night at her house since and our relationship is just dandy. Am I missing something here? I told DH I really don't care if SS19 comes to the house, whatever. I don't have any huge issue with him other than I really don't want him around BS8 because he acts like a thug, smokes dope, is a high school drop out and just not a good "role model". But a day here or there?? Whatever. And I also said that because I know SS won't come. He has no interest in hunting with DH. He only cares about playing video games and smoking dope all night with his loser friends and step dad and sleeping all day. Never had a job, no DL, no diploma, still living with BM. Great job SS!
I also had to remind DH that SD is not welcome because I am done being disrespected by her she has torched that bridge. I'm done letting by gones be by gones and having the same stupid disrespect rerun over and over again. The nasty text message that she sent me last September over NOTHING was the final straw. DH said he didn't remember that? WTF???? And then he started with the "well it's beacuse of BM and GBM excuse" and I cut him off. Im NOT listening to that crap anymore. I allowed her to live with us TWICE! Each time ended in drama and disaster. I allowed her to stay with us TWO more times after that while visiting for the summer or Christmas break. BOTH of those times ended in disaster and drama. I.am.done. The funny thing is each and every time her stay ended in drama, DH was done with her too. But then she goes to Aunt J's or to University and DH conveniently forgets what a socipathic shithead she is.
I printed out the screenshot of her message BTW, and gave it to him last night. All he said was "hmmm, she really did act like quite immature over nothing." No shit Sherlock. Ugh.