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BM's expectations of DH while she is on a cruise Part 2

Daisymazy2's picture

If you read my last blog, I stated that BM expected DH to pick up SD, age 15,  from her neices houses about 4 hours away over the weekend.  She is there because I work from home, DH is working and no one locally will watch SD because of Sd's behavior.   She basically just told DH to pick her up just before she boarded the cruise ship.

Last night, BM sent DH an email from the cruise ship telling DH to pick up SD on Friday because it will be snowing this weekend.  DH sends her an email back telling her NO.  We are not sure she even got it but DH said that BM could just pick her up on Monday when she gets back.  Of course, he added a lot more colorful language.

I am so proud of DH for standing up for himself.  It has been a long process.

I know BM doesn't like me at all.  She has told DH that he needs to get his B%^lls back from me.    DH would always jump and do whatever she wanted until we married.  Now, everything is planned out. 

I just do not understand why this woman can not just ASK if DH can do something for her and also ask in advance.  

She goes on this yearly cruise with her sister.  Everyone is suppose to jump and bend over backwards for her because she NEEDS this cruise.  She NEEDS to be away from SD.  She NEEDS a break from the rest of the world.  This summer, she will be planning a vist somewhere out of the country with her sister.  She will be on vacation for about 2 weeks.  She will NEED everyone to jump for her again.  DH doesn't do that anymore and I am so proud of him.

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Aniki's picture

NO would have been sufficient and likely have chapped her arse more than the colorful language... LOL

Daisymazy2's picture

He only told BM NO.  He told me that she could get her on Monday and used the colorful language.  I should have clarifed on that one.

pixielady's picture

As an aside, so bio parents can take vacations without their kids but god forbid if a stepfamily decides to go on vacation without the skids. The backlash when SM, DH and any bio kids they share go on a vacation without a skid, is such a double standard. After several miserable vacations with SS, I told DH no more. He can go with him alone, and we can go together with our DS.

Daisymazy2's picture

If we go on vacation, it is usually for a weekend a state or so away.  Of course, BM throws a tantrum if SD wasn't invited to go.  Bm takes 2 vacations out of the country each year and several mini vacations with out SD

 

bananaseedo's picture

I don't feel there's anything wrong w/her taking vacations per se -that said-is there no extended time SD spends with your DH in the summer/breaks that she can plan around and not have to ask for additional favors/time watching her?

 

Daisymazy2's picture

BM had her laywer prepare the CO and gave DH zero vistation unless the two agree.   DH screwed himself by signing it but BM screwed herself too.  DH never knows in advance when BM is taking a cruise or vacation to make plans for SD.  SD isn't allowed in my house anymore.  She lies about abuse and other things.  It is a long story but I can't trust her not to lie about my BS or me.  Dh would have to plan to take her to his mom's house out of state.  If he knew a few months in advance when BM is taking the cruise then he could arrange it.  DH knew about the cruise about 2 days prior to it.

bananaseedo's picture

Oh wow, then she can go fly a kite...let her sweat it her whole vacation-leave her w/the relatives.

 

 

bananaseedo's picture

Oh wow, then she can go fly a kite...let her sweat it her whole vacation-leave her w/the relatives.