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I'M DONE WITH THE DRAMA!!!!!

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Submitted by daisy0202 on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 9:59am

After last nights episode of her so called anxiety attack and not being able to go for dinner due to it I have decided I am done with this BS...

When I finally got home i was at the least PISSED!!!!! i didn't even talk to DH for awhile and he was wondering what happened....he came into our room asking What was wrong.....ARE YOU FUCKIN KIDDING ME!!!! So i let him have it...I talked about my day sucking, idiot staff, and then to top off my day we make plans but brat has a so called attack and you change our plans...I am sick and tired of changing our plans for your 16 year old child...She is not a baby or a 6 year old that needs a baby sitter...OK she doesn't want to go for dinner STAY THE FUCK HOME!!!!!! You are the father, you are the one who should be telling her what to do not the other way around!!!! WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU???

Everyday is some issue, everyday is some kind of drama, it is insane...If she is like this now what do you think she will be like as an actual adult....Your not helping her, your actually hurting her by allowing this kind of behavior....I AM NOT DOING THIS!!!!! His response.. :jawdrop: Priceless....He said i never knew you felt this way...HELLOOOOOO you should feel this way...Your not helping her....

I explained to him I am tired of you asking for permission for us to do something....I will not have it!!!! I think it was pretty shity that after you and I make plans she decides I do not want to go and YOU DON"T!!! WTF is that....and to boot when i got home she was laughing with "DADDY" crawled up my ass a MILE!!!! After dinner I actually went to my parents house because I didn't want to go home...(they only live right down the street) so had a couple of glasses of wine with my father, my son made cookies with my mom while i vented to my "DADDY"...Today still aggravated and we have that brat tonight and she has therapy....My son has practice for soccer so my plan i get home after he does i plan on comming home going straight to my room and reading....I am all set with that bitch!!!! God why can't things be normal....Sorry for the language so PISSED STILL!!!!!

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Submitted by VioletsareBlue on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 10:16am

They really are daft sometimes.
What will you do now? I suppose the next time she tries this crap you can tell him outright that it isn't OK AND since she said she doesn't want to go, she doesn't get to go. This is something I'm teaching my SDs. You run your mouth and throw a fit about something and say, "Fine I just won't (fill in blank)" then you don't get to do or go to whatever because that's what you spouted.

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Submitted by ThatGirl on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 10:16am

You have every right to be PO'd. I'm glad you spoke up, hopefully he'll realize what he's been doing and try to make some changes.

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Submitted by daisy0202 on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 11:00am

You know it makes me think sometimes, I love DH he is a good man (to me) I was in a terrible marriage before, a control freak where I couldn't even take a shower without calling him first...I have come a long way from that and my DH now is NOTHING like that...But this issue with his daughter makes me nervous that i dont know if I want to continue to put up with her shit!!! i don't see it ever changing, I don't see her ever leaving our home and become an adult, and that scares me....I do not want to be with this child all my life...She is soooo far up "daddy's" ass i dont see that ever changing!!! How do we deal? any advise would be great!!! Sometimes I just feel sick over it....This little girl is going to be 17, 17 and i do not see a light at the end of the tunnel...I do not see her going away to college, being independant, cutting the cord from her father...Its sad...Then i see my boys my oldest is away at college only calls maybe once a week if that, my 14 yr old started doing his own thing last year and I see him growing but her...I SEE NOTHING!!!! I see us going backwards not forwards...I'm starting to think is this worth it? Does anyone else feel this way?

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 12:39pm

I think the more he gives in to her "anxiety attacks" the more she is going to use it as an excuse. I am not saying they are not real but maybe she uses it to her advantage to get some alone time with daddy or just to get her way. I would be pissed too! He needs to not feed into it and I bet they will get less and less if she doesn't have daddy home babying her. He should have left her ass home and went to dinner with you. Then she can sit home all alone. He is definitely not helping her grow into a mature adult. Even my SD15 is so immature because she is never expected to do anything on her own. I don't ever see her getting a job or moving out of my house!! I am so afraid I will be stuck with this kid till she's 50!!

Sorry I wish I had advise but unfortunately I am on the same sinking ship as you are Sad

My DD10 is more mature than SD and thats scary. I told DH that when SD turns 16 in October she should be expected to get a small part time job just to see what its like to actually work and make money. He thinks shes too immature but she should at least try it!! I worked when I was 15.

I am just praying that one day she will want to go live with BM and leave us alone!! I secretly pray they move to another country }:)