If he can deny there is a problem, that means he doesn't have to do anything about it.

i'd be apathetic at this point. Tell him if he can't control his daughter, he can sleep in another room. Your room is your private area.

Sounds like he has a wife already. I'd tell him that too.

Oh I get to hear that 'remember when' crap all the time!! I get so sick of it!! I do not go around talking about when I was married to someone else all the time and my son never brings it up around FDH. the daddies can stop if they wanted too, but they can't say anything to the little princesses because we wouldn't want to hurt THEIR feelings....

"daaaaaaaaaadddddddeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!"

Yep, I"d tell him he has a wife already so no wifely favours from YOU.

It is NOT ok for her to just go waltzing in your bedroom at any hour, let alone at freaking 1AM when she should have been sound asleep. DH needs to set up some seriuos boundries now. I am sure SD will throw a major fit at first, but who cares. If DH follows through, then things will improve.

it does not matter one bit what he thinks. you simply tell him this is how it will be. you are not asking him to do anything outrageous.

he has no problem with it apparently and doesn't want change.

you are the one who wants and needs change. do not make it about SD's behavior, make it about your needs. simply tell him what you need.

i am nervous that sd will come into our bedroom at any time, it upsets me and so i will be putting a lock on the door...it is what YOU will do, he can be on board or not, but this is what YOU do to get your needs met. he will fuss...oh well, do it anyway, but always keep it about YOUR needs and nothing else.

i am going to tell sd16 not to interrupt me when i'm having a conversation with you. i would like for you to back me and i would love it if you did it yourself. i become a crazy person when she interrupts and this is what i need to do for my sanity.

i want to get away, just the two of us on a weekly/biweekly basis, if however you are not willing to then i will have a girls night with my friends instead. i need adult time without kids.

make this about you and your needs and become the person who takes responsibility and action for them.

I have to tell you I have SD15 full time and I know exactly how you feel. If DH would allow it she would actually crawl up inside his ass, thats how close shes tries to be with him. Thankfully most of the time as she is talking and going on and on he usually walks away from her, comes in our bedroom and shuts the door. She tried the whole daddy remember this, daddy remember that this weekend. He fell for it, I put the car radio louder. I cannot stand her being in every conversation we try to have. If she hears him go in the kitchen, like clockwork she is in the kitchen stalking us walking around all awkward and weird with nothing to say.

When she is in the room I don't speak to him because she has to put her two cents in. Like I care what she has to say one bit!
Usually DH is tired from working all day and the last thing he wants is to hear her pointless stories or a list of what she "needs" this week.

Your DH needs to put a stop to her!! My kids would never open my bedroom door. They do knock sometimes but they don't like to because DH usually yells at them for knocking for some stupid reason. Even my 3 yr old knocks!

I guess I don't have it that bad anymore because DH works 15 hour days and usually 6 days a week. Most of the weekends SD makes plans and goes town hopping from friends to BM's to grandmothers. The weekends she stays home are hell. I don't leave my room or I go out and leave him with ALL the kids because I cannot deal with her following him around, daddy this, daddy that.

Now she is saying this summer she wants to come and work for him all summer. Normally I would be happy to be rid of her but its gonna turn into the SD and Daddy show! It was MIL's idea so SD can spend more time with DH. Wait till she gets a load of him at work-he is very stressed and yells at the drivers all day long!! Good luck, I won't even spend any time there with him because he is not like that at home.

I wish I had better advice than hiding in my room but thats what I do. Luckily DH is not around enough for us to fight for his attention. When he worked less, I was more stressed because she was really up his ass, worse than she is now!!

What would these children do if we just walked into their rooms or into the bathroom when they were in there? For one, their psycho BMs would have a fit, and so would their daaaaadeeeees, I bet.

Is nothing sacred? I'm likely to be giving my DH a BJ at 1 in the morning....there is nothing short of a fire that warrants that type of flagrant disruption!

Ya know normajean I would just walk into her room or the bathroom while they are in there doing something and play it off like well you walked in my room without knocking so i thought we were now going to not follow that rule anymore. }:)

I'd decide (as of that point) to give up my nightgown for sleeping purposes.

See how often she wants to walk in with no notice after THAT!