Should parents ever stop trying
I was away this weekend and SO had to take the skids to celebrate the grandfathers birthday and that is pretty much the only thing the kids do with SO because they always get money or gift from the grandparents. I guess after they left the kids started an argument with SO saying he doesn't do anything with them or for them. As you know I think SO runs SS way to much. But yes he doesn't actually do anything fun or bonding with them because they say no to everything. They said he doesn't spend enough money on them which of course again is not true because we argue all the time that he spends too much. They said that he yells at BM all of the time which again is not true because they haven't talked on the phone for months and I read his texts. There was a lot more said by the kids and I guess SO said it wasn't worth him explaining everything to them but he said to SD that he does know he spends too much time with SS and sports especially the baseball SS said that SO does not . Seriously kid. But SO told SD that anytime he asks her to do anything she says no. There is so much he could have said to them but chose not too. My question is as a dad should he continue to keep attempting to make these kids understand and settle for crumbs or do you back away? All I said to Him is sorry you are going through this because it is not worth my effort. I was sure glad I was out of town at the beach and really not caring.